EARLY ACCESS: People Are Getting Laid Less... Why?
Added 2024-09-20 16:00:15 +0000 UTCVIDEO LINK: https://youtu.be/vi6OwBUpCuU
Hey everyone, it's Early Access Day, and today's video is a sort of "classic Buckley" video, one looking at a subject that's not necessarily based on any sort of topical news or trend, but just a series of things I came across over the last couple months that I thought were interesting that I finally was able to put together into one video. BUT, perhaps a topic that's ALWAYS topical: gettin' laid (or... for apparently 1/5th of the adult population... NOT gettin' laid). Enjoy!
Did you know that people aren't bumpin' uglies as much as they used to? That's right, studies show that the amount of people enjoying bedroom funtimes is less and less, despite (or maybe because of?) the fact that we are bombarded with sexuality maybe now more than ever. Buckley looks at a few studies, as well as a couple charts that went viral that reportedly showed the hobbies that women find most and least attractive, to try and get to the bottom of why no one's getting on top of each other.
Comments
I resonate hard with this.
Justin Hudson
2024-10-01 12:07:33 +0000 UTCBeing terminally online and listening to anyone online is the most unattractive thing ever for both sexes.
Cephalo
2024-09-23 23:34:21 +0000 UTCI think it's also just hard to meet people. I personally would not want to date a coworker, and fewer and fewer people have group hobbies outside of work. Given the effort required to actually meet someone in the first place, I think a lot of people are really just looking for the validation and attention that social media gives rather than putting in the work for real social interaction that you get from dating. And also, lots of people in real life are weird as shit and haven't been properly socialized in the first place
Username User
2024-09-23 18:58:17 +0000 UTCI think the falling birth rate comes from the pandemic. Experts predicted that everyone being on lockdown would cause a boom, but it really didn’t if I remember correctly. Hookups came to a standstill and now that we’re far clear from the lockdowns tons of people haven’t returned to the casual sex scene. People realized that porn/onlyfans/internet delusion combined with low effort hobbies that don’t even involve opening your front door satisfy the same urges and cravings for dopamine.
Jason Matera
2024-09-23 08:04:40 +0000 UTCYeah. Before the Internet it was a quarterly magazine for men that discussed things like fashion/proper business and formal attire, things like whiskey recommendations, that sort of thing, as well as stories that may be of interest to men.
Adam Buckley
2024-09-21 21:29:23 +0000 UTCStardew Valley is for everyone!
Daniel Mattock
2024-09-21 09:42:55 +0000 UTCWait, that's what GQ stands for? I had no idea.
Honk22
2024-09-21 02:40:55 +0000 UTCSeveral reasons in my case 1. I burned out dating a lot when I was 22-24yo. I never liked dating, the whole "game" thing when you hide some things about yourself to appear more interesting, or try to non-creepily make the girl think about you a lot, like some sort of a light emotional manipulation. I'm an honest, straightforward guy so doing all the fancy shmancy circling was very tiring. Nowadays I rarely bother, as soon as any "investment" isn't showing promise I cut it off early. 2. The ability of women to hold a conversation nowadays is tanking a lot. So many dates I found myself (mainly a listener, not a talker) be the one talking all the time, asking questions, sharing stories, plans etc. I get it, some people are shy or need time opening but I saw that happening less and less with time. In my early years of dating I met people that sharing silence with was fun, walking through a park together watching ducks&shit. Not a thing anymore, even when I try to enjoy it I see lack of comfort or them reaching 3. their fucking phones. Like jesus christ what is with that attention span. And the best part is that they still want your attention a lot (like always) but can't even enjoy it when you give it to them without checking notifications on their damn phones. Yes it's "old man screaming at teens" moment but I was 12yo when I had my first mobile phone, we were dicking a lot with those gadgets but on dates those were in our pants next to our badly hidden boners. 4. Sex just isn't that great. I definitely was disappointed after I got my first dose. Sure, I got addicted later and I still like it from time to time but in a relationship it can be a lot of work depending how much your partner is cooperating and how compatible your libidos are. Considering my last relationship I can say that I enjoy building legos or training martial arts way more than having sex. Although best sex I ever had was better than both those things combined.
Michał Michalski
2024-09-21 00:25:16 +0000 UTCI would be very interested in finding out whether or not mental illnesses and the medications used to treat them might play a role in this as well. When I'm having a bad episode of depression, I am certainly not horny. Also, some of the meds that we use to treat mental illnesses can drastically lower Libido. I'm not even saying this is a major cause, but I would love to see some research either way.
Victoria West
2024-09-21 00:14:21 +0000 UTCAh yes, blacksmithing. Every women’s fantasy
Ale
2024-09-20 21:29:52 +0000 UTCi'll be honest 20% seems like wishful thinking, it's probably at least 25%
Numptaloid
2024-09-20 20:49:02 +0000 UTCI would be interested in seeing a study as to whether or not stay-at-home moms (or Dads?) get laid more often than dual-income couples.
Adam Buckley
2024-09-20 18:23:54 +0000 UTCPerhaps, but I wonder why that is... perhaps the parasocial aspects specifically of things like OnlyFans, that gives a little more "reality" to it? Because I know when I first saw Internet pornography (when I was of completely legal age of course!) it just kinda made me want to have the actual thing more, it wasn't REALLY a substitute.
Adam Buckley
2024-09-20 18:22:42 +0000 UTCThe proliferation of internet pornography is also a problem as well.
Alexander Greensmith
2024-09-20 18:20:33 +0000 UTCI mean, the graphs are bullshit bot propaganda yes, but people not wanting to fuck is very real. Like, we still wanna fuck, but at the same time, nobody is trying to have kids now, we're all poor, and if we even CONSIDER it we're being very selective about our partners cas we've all seen way too many people become bullshit baby mommas and baby daddys and both sides of the aisle are trying to be missed by that drama. Dying alone is better than being with the wrong person because you brought a child into the world with them.
Jarrett Thompson
2024-09-20 18:13:20 +0000 UTCAnd just yesterday I ignored a woman's booty call text because I had so much work this week I just wanted to unwind, play video games and pass out by midnight. Not staying up all night playing hide the salami.
The Jibberjabber
2024-09-20 17:21:05 +0000 UTCThe problem isn't video games, it's the imbalance of labor in the household
TR4SHF1RE
2024-09-20 16:34:06 +0000 UTCFirst! …just like my ex told me over and over 😂
Ash Archer
2024-09-20 16:01:04 +0000 UTC
