Rest
Added 2023-09-06 16:45:30 +0000 UTCI haven't written anything about myself for a long time. It took me a long time to figure out what to write. So I write about what worries me right now =)
Rest
It’s simple at first glance: if you worked during the day, then in the evening you need to rest in order to wake up rested and rejuvenated by the next day. This is how it should work.
In my case it works differently.
I, like all people, rest at the end of the day and sleep. I also took one day off a week.
When I work, I get satisfaction from the process, even more after the completion of the project. Turning what you like into work is a dream, and I am glad that in my case it is so. I don't feel dissatisfied about this.
But I don't like my relationship with the Rest process. When I rest, I often feel guilty. It seems that because of this, I do not have a full rest, and as a result, I do not see the promoted result: to wake up fresh and full of energy :)
Fatigue is not completely removed and accumulates with an increasingly heavier load, which is not good. Motivation suffers, getting satisfaction from what you like to do and even enjoying life.
More recently, I began to think that something was wrong.
I want to rest without guilt or remorse, and feel the result of this activity.
In connection with this, I began to read articles, watch videos of various kinds on the topic "how to effectively relax."
As a result, I came to the conclusion that in my case one of the approaches is to consider rest as part of work (to work well, you need to have a good rest, yes, yes). Second: I need a "picture change" to switch - to pull my always tired ass outside the apartment.
I also decided to rest on a timer (the same one that I use for work). Should work for me, I hope. The first couple of days of such an experiment have already given an optimistic result.
Considering some of my personal characteristics of interaction with the outside world, the features of work and leisure, as well as some other factors, I suspect that I have an autism spectrum trait. But the situation is a little more complicated by the fact that in the country where I now live, many "psychiatrists" are a little behind modern science (by 30-40 years maybe), and it is very difficult to confirm or refute this.
I wonder what is your relationship with the rest? What are your ways of relaxing and does it work the same for everyone or is it difficult for someone like me?
Comments
Melatonin... Might be a good idea for me too, but I'm a little apprehensive about taking medication without medical supervision. This is mainly due to the fact that I suspect that I have an autism spectrum trait (or something similar), and there is a possibility that my body may react differently than I expect. For example caffeine, taurine and other stimulants have no effect on me. When I noticed this, I started to suspect something xD
Marrion 3d
2023-09-07 15:33:51 +0000 UTCIt seems that it turns out that people here are very enthusiastic and have similar features. It is also very difficult for me to stop thinking about work during a rest. I still have to figure out what to do with this situation =)
Marrion 3d
2023-09-07 15:20:22 +0000 UTCThank you for such a detailed answer ^_^ I really liked the idea that "life is not a race, it's a marathon". I will definitely remember it =)
Marrion 3d
2023-09-07 15:13:13 +0000 UTCI can relate as well, although I think it’s a little different for everybody, both in how they naturally react to the principle of taking a rest, and to what is effective to really make them relax. Personally I’ve struggled a long time with ‘resting’ when my body calls for it. Taking some time off during a work day always made me feel guilty (I’m not self-employed so the guilt was towards my employer). Even if I don’t have fixed hours, only the responsibility to get my work done, I couldn’t shake the guilt. Until my whole body said ‘allright, no more of this, I’m pulling the plug’. Quite literally; I was out for over a year. That was of course not caused by the feeling of guilt, many factors contributed. But feeling ‘forced’ all the time, mostly by myself, in most things I did, definitely made things worse. In the end I had to learn what you are also trying to apply now: resting and relaxing (like really relaxing, not a forced 15 min coffee break) are essential to be a happy and successful individual in the long term. Life is not a race, it’s a marathon. So rest and relaxing should be planned as part of every day, if need be, because you will be ‘underperforming’ in life or work if you neglect that. While I can sleep anywhere, anytime, my sleep is usually very bad in quality, due to active dreams. There too it’s about setting a routine for yourself, and realising that sleep is part of that whole I-need-to-take-care-of-myself-also-for-work mindset. It takes a long time to really mess up your sleep quality/pattern, but it also takes a long time to get it back on track. So best to avoid it getting too bad. I’m glad to see you actively pushing yourself to go out the door. That too is important, changing your horizon really helps to see things in perspective and break a tunnel-vision streak. I definitely think a lot of people struggle with it, each in their own way, and what works for one might not work for another. For me personally, music is very important to… not relax but break away from it all. Real relaxing I don't manage often, my body is tense non stop, which has even led to a breathing disorder. The closest I can get is by sporting, and planning little moments to myself where I don’t really foresee anything I ‘must do’ (not even fun stuff), but just decide in the moment what I feel like, from watching TV in the couch to gaming or doing craft projects like prop building. Not setting expectations, just carving out me-time, helps me somewhat.
Wim D.
2023-09-06 20:53:44 +0000 UTCI'm glad you're starting to find a rest routine that works for you. It can be hard to switch off and relax, I always feel like I should be doing something productive with my time but I find when I take a break and play a video game or something for a few hours eventually I find a natural motivation to continue on the work, if I try to force myself it doesn't work very well, my productivity is down. This happens every few weeks, I spend half a Saturday playing Skyrim or whatever when I feel I need a break from work and prop making. And for sleep, I used to think I slept quite well but recently I've found I'm a very light sleeper and even though I plan to get maybe 9 hours of sleep, I end up only getting 5 or 6 during that time and I wake up exhausted. So I'm not sure how it feels to be totally refreshed and full of energy 😅
Danielle Gray
2023-09-06 20:19:55 +0000 UTCThank you for sharing this. I can relate to much of what you said. For me, rest and sleep are not necessarily connected, as I rarely wake up feeling “well rested”. I know that sleep is important, but if I’m in the groove of a project it’s very difficult to stop for sleep until I’m physically exhausted (I have a similar relationship with food, but that’s a different story). I have found that a small dose of melatonin before laying down has helped me get to sleep, but the feeling of grogginess lingers after I wake. Relaxation is much more difficult to achieve. I have carried tension for as long as I can remember, and there really isn’t anything I’ve found that releases it.
Ryan
2023-09-06 18:03:03 +0000 UTC
