PATREON EXCLUSIVE (Full Video): Humility is an attractive trait on women
Added 2024-08-18 07:44:44 +0000 UTC
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@John McGuinness - Perfectly understandable. 👍
Joseph Omega
2024-09-05 19:09:01 +0000 UTCSorry bout the rant, I havent had ANYONE to talk to....... I hope you understand
John McGuinness
2024-08-25 13:01:58 +0000 UTCI worked in the mines of Australia to save 60k in a year in order to build a house with my ex, so that SHE could be close to her daughter (the kids dad was the primary care giver). We built the house, I let her decorated the house how she wanted. She played the piano, so I brought her a 6' baby grand (it was the biggest piano we could fit into the space), and I also co-signed the lease on her car (her credit was shit). iNSIDE OF 2 YEARS after we moved in (I also spent 60k of my dads estate providing pathways and a bbq area) I had a motorcycle accident that left me with a brain injury and unable to work). WAS I BROKE..... No, I was getting 85k a year in insurance. At the time, she was making 100k a year. But that didnt stop her sueing my ass for half the house that she contributed not a single cent for. I was in rehab when I got the message that she had a removalist van backed up to the house and was taking furniture from the house. I came home to find furniture missing. We had'nt had the talk about who was taking what..... IS MY VIEW OF WOMEN SHITTY... Well I have to admit is pretty well is.... but really..... can you BLAME ME.......
John McGuinness
2024-08-25 12:57:13 +0000 UTCThe problem is that with feminism, the education of women who become 'girl boss babes' and the like, they dont realise that this has made them LESS attractive to men. Because of the above, women have become more combative and they come through with masculine energy. NO MAN wants that when they come home. When a man comes home after a long day of taking on the world, the last thing that he needs is a combative woman. Instead, he desires peace in his home, the home that in all likely hood he is paying for. All a woman needs to do is follow his lead, to give out feminem energy and not be combative in her own home.....
John McGuinness
2024-08-25 12:35:39 +0000 UTC@E C - I believe it is neither useful nor healthy to absolve oneself of agency or responsiblity for the consequences of one's "activism" on this Patreon. Nothing "just happens" that we willfully cause for which we never intend.
Joseph Omega
2024-08-20 06:27:15 +0000 UTC@Mark Bryski - I like to think I advocate for logic and for balance and for reason. If this manages to align with advocacy for men's (OR women's) issues, then it is purely coincidental. Personal experiences, the video arguments and comments, along with the observation of societal trends form PARTS of the input I use for comprehension. Like Alexander and many other men I know, I tend more towards the PRESCRIPTIVE over the purely DESCRIPTIVE. My focus is not only on myself, but on my fellow humans, INCLUDING those here on this Patreon.
Joseph Omega
2024-08-19 21:49:26 +0000 UTC@ Mark. I think you have the right idea. And your comments are always related to the video.
Eric Linden
2024-08-19 14:49:20 +0000 UTC@Joseph Omega I have a sense advocating for men’s issues is a high priority for you. Myself, I am in AG’s Patreon to learn how I can have a better relationship with a woman. My focus is on me and my situation. This Patreon suits my purpose because AG has expressed this its primary purpose. As a result, I am more interested in sharing my personal situation and hearing about other people’s experiences. I am passing on any discussions on how culture and society should be shaped.
Mark Bryski
2024-08-19 13:15:57 +0000 UTC@Joseph. I agree with you and ChatGPT. Just thinking you are dependent, or believing another is dependent on you are codependent situations. Often codependent people find out they are actually independent when they are put to the test. I don’t believe my grandpa was deceiving anyone. Up until that day (when he finally tried to do those tasks himself), he truly believed he was dependent on others. As AG says, interdependence is the most healthy state to be in. Two people lend their strengths/preferences to each other. Her doing the dishes and him mowing the lawn is healthy for the relationship, even though they are independently capable of taking care of all the tasks themselves.
Eric Linden
2024-08-19 09:11:48 +0000 UTC@Eric Linden - I THOUGHT I underfstood, but in your grandparents example, wouldn't it be said that it was your GRANDMOTHER and later the helper who were more effectively acting as the CO-DEPENDENT ones by supporting or enabling your GRANDFATHER'S poor health, thinking that he was DEPENDENT? And that, unbeknownst to them both (as well as yourself), he was actually INDEPENDENT. This last implying that MAYBE there was actually no real CO-DEPENDENCY in the first place? I asked ChatGPT for the differences -- do you agree with its response: Independence: Self-sufficiency and autonomy in managing one’s own emotional and physical needs without reliance on others. Co-dependence: A relational dynamic where one person (the dependent) overly relies on another (the enabler), who reciprocates by excessively catering to or enabling the dependent’s needs, often to the detriment of their own. Interdependence: A healthy relationship dynamic where partners mutually support each other, maintaining personal autonomy while benefiting from each other’s strengths. Dependence: Relying on another person for support or care, which can vary from healthy dependence (such as in childhood or illness) to unhealthy forms (as in certain adult relationships).
Joseph Omega
2024-08-19 07:21:42 +0000 UTC@Joseph. AG explains starting at 11:06. He says it’s the strong independent women in the beginning of the video. I have a different take. My grandfather had a stroke. For the next few years, my grandma had to zip his pants, buckle his belt, and button his shirt every morning. He was codependent. Then my grandmother died. We paid someone to come every morning to do those things for him. Then one day the person arrived a few minutes late and he was gone. He had zipped his pants, buckled his belt, and buttoned his shirt by himself and gone down the street to the local coffee shop to get a cup of coffee. He was actually independent. We stopped paying the person because he didn’t actually need her.
Eric Linden
2024-08-19 03:39:29 +0000 UTC@Eric Linden - Interesting. I think I get it. In your example, what would be the conditions under which the kid would consider his parents "indepenent"? When he sees his mom and his dad sometimes doing the dishes and sometimes filling the gas randomly, even when one is not away or not ill?
Joseph Omega
2024-08-19 01:28:34 +0000 UTC@Joseph. No. Here’s an example: For years, a kid sees his mom cooking and doing the dishes, and sees his dad filling the cars with gas and mowing the lawn. He thinks they are codependent. Then one day, his mom is in the hospital. His dad cooks dinner and does the dishes . Later, his dad goes off for a week to a business meeting. He sees his mom mow the lawn and fill her car with gas. Now the kid realizes they are interdependent. This example has to do with tasks. Sometimes the terms refer to emotional support. Some codependent people really do fall apart emotionally when their partner is not there. Some think they will. Most are actually fine.
Eric Linden
2024-08-19 00:48:41 +0000 UTC@E C - I am only saying what I have actually said. Do you remember this famous interview? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k-rE03PGQfA Why do you persist in these catty (or Cathy) exchanges?
Joseph Omega
2024-08-18 23:41:42 +0000 UTC@E C - That is only by Feminist choice -- one that you have come to believe (via your "social contagion") to be a Hobson's.
Joseph Omega
2024-08-18 23:21:32 +0000 UTC@E C - Again, the nature of "Soft Power" has NEVER been to have MORE of it. Your obsession with masculine value systems keeps you from developing your own.
Joseph Omega
2024-08-18 23:12:17 +0000 UTC@E C - Thanks, it was one of my dad's favourites.
Joseph Omega
2024-08-18 23:10:04 +0000 UTC@E C - Women are only "going to college and universities at higher levels" because men are NOT, and they are only filling (often freshly created) non-technical professions. And, due to the arithmetic of salary Hypergamy, they can no longer find men to "look up to", so they end up prolonging their search for this "supportive man" until they can no longer compete. Is this not all old news?
Joseph Omega
2024-08-18 23:05:25 +0000 UTC@Mark Bryski - Indeed, but we are all free to speculate on what COULD be.
Joseph Omega
2024-08-18 23:00:38 +0000 UTC@E C - We ALL lose SOME power with illness -- it's a genderless thing. It seems you don't really understand "Matriach Power". Probably due the the limitations of your own unique lived experience?
Joseph Omega
2024-08-18 22:56:15 +0000 UTC@E C - 🤦♂️ Oh no, here we go again ...
Joseph Omega
2024-08-18 22:52:04 +0000 UTC@Joseph Omega Meh. I am on here to learn how to have better relationships with women. I prefer to ignore the distractions.
Mark Bryski
2024-08-18 22:51:33 +0000 UTC@E C - The young woman is likely learning from the "social contagion" far FAR MORE than from YOU. No, young people (of EITHER gender) are not universally known for their "smarts". And also no, many older women are more villians to OTHER (especially younger) women, but just OBSTACLES to men. PS. Your counsel to the young woman is ADMIRABLE. I'm very pleasantly surprised. Bravo!
Joseph Omega
2024-08-18 22:49:22 +0000 UTC@Mark Bryski - No, I did not mean YOU in particular, but the CULTURE.
Joseph Omega
2024-08-18 22:44:35 +0000 UTC@E C - "Soft power" just changes FORM, not potential -- a Family Matriarch is just as influential as a young thing (maybe even MORE so), but in a different way. Just as "Hard power" changes FORM with age for a man, as he gains prestige and stature.
Joseph Omega
2024-08-18 22:36:15 +0000 UTC@Joseph Omega Sorry Bro. I am letting it happen naturally. "Making it happen" sounds complicated and time consuming. I prefer to focus on myself. I am healthy and fit. Veins are popping out of my neck and forearms and soon to be out of my bi-ceps. Women have started to nervously initiate conversation with me at the grocery store. Now, I want to focus on being smart about it.
Mark Bryski
2024-08-18 21:41:15 +0000 UTC@David Anon - That pretty much DEFINES the female condition, almost by evolutionary necessity. "Soft power" is traditionally GROSSLY underrated by men in their high-profile Hubris, and by (Feminist) women in their petutlant and short-sighted desire to be masculine.
Joseph Omega
2024-08-18 21:37:26 +0000 UTC@Eric Linden - Likely, a long time passing ... https://youtu.be/ZgXNVA9ngx8?t=4
Joseph Omega
2024-08-18 21:35:57 +0000 UTC@Mark Bryski - 💯% agree, with the implied solution being for the culture to move towards bursting that "Hoeflation Bubble" as EARLY as possible. Maybe by ACTIVELY discrediting older, jaded women operating on the old "misery loves company" paradigm to pull younger women down into the emptiness, fruitlessness and frustration of their older years following squandered youth.
Joseph Omega
2024-08-18 21:24:26 +0000 UTC@Eric Linden - I always have trouble understanding the full meaning of the term "co-dependence", and the degree to which it is ALWAYS negative -- for instance, is there such a thing as "Non-dysfunctional Mutual Co-dependency", where there is "mutual self-sacrifice", the very DEFINTION of the romantic fantasy that (MOST) women crave and idealize, like in "The Notebook" and "Romeo & Juliette". I asked ChatGPT, and here are a couple of its responses: "MUTUAL SUPPORT: In a healthy relationship, partners might willingly and consciously decide to sacrifice their own needs temporarily to support the other in times of need, such as during illness, career challenges, or personal loss. This becomes a healthy dynamic when both partners are capable of reciprocating, the sacrifices are appreciated and respected, and neither partner neglects their own well-being long-term." "Integrating a commitment to each partner's self-sustainability into the concept of mutual self-sacrifice could ... be a valuable solution [to the inherent flaws of the idealized relationship]. This approach refines the ideal by recognizing the importance of individual strength and resilience, ensuring that each person maintains their ability to stand independently while also being part of a supportive partnership." In other words, a solution to the failures of the fantasy ideal could be to extend the mutual self-sacrifice to include a recognition and commitment by each partner to the self-sustanability of the other. PS. When you said "Most relationships are somewhere between codependent and interdependent", did you really mean to say "Most relationships are somewhere between "codependent and independent"? This seems to reflect modern societal trends more accurately, with "interdependent" lying somewhere between the two polar extremes.
Joseph Omega
2024-08-18 21:16:41 +0000 UTCMost relationships are somewhere between codependent and interdependent. We have to strive for interdependent if we want it to prosper.
Eric Linden
2024-08-18 14:42:19 +0000 UTCone final note on my last point. That mindset also dehumanizes any man she relates to which is toxic and should be avoided. As AG has put it, ruthlessly cut the cord when you encounter it.
Mark Bryski
2024-08-18 12:16:03 +0000 UTCThe women were saying they don’t need a man. Yet, they were saying it while out clubbing to meet men. I suspect they are saying it to bait men into trying to prove them wrong. They are trying to hook men into being their fools. Another way of viewing it is they are actually saying they don’t need to respect men as they are needing men. This is hoeflation in action. The old version of me would have seen this situation as hopeless. With the work I have done with myself over the past year or so, I am able to look at it with a discerning eye: 1.The bubble is starting to burst on hoeflation 2.I only engage women who work on themselves in some way (therapy, recovery groups, etc etc) 3.Is the woman facing her own ageing Frankly speaking, until today, I did not have much clarity on the last one “is the woman facing her own ageing” . This goes hand in hand with a woman being humble and respecting a man. Years ago, AG did a video showing the moment a woman realizes her time has passed. Her bubble had burst and was forced to face her ageing. I am going to view it again with a new perspective. Also, I hope AG continues to dive deeper into this subject because I believe when a woman reaches this point, she is ready to grow which means she is ready to bond with a man. When her bubble is inflated, she has a sense of entitlement and expects “men to be better”. That mindset is lazy and simple minded.
Mark Bryski
2024-08-18 12:09:23 +0000 UTCWhere have all the humble women gone?
Eric Linden
2024-08-18 11:56:06 +0000 UTCThere's a woman I know, thankfully not in my circle. She tries to control everyone's behaviour. I think her manager has trouble coming her way. Her behaviour I believe is called "externalisation" where the person cannot regulate their own emotions and therefore compensates by trying to control others behaviour.
David Anon
2024-08-18 09:49:48 +0000 UTC
