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Buffy 4x3 [EARLY ACCESS]
Added 2025-05-02 19:52:07 +0000 UTC
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I'm so so sorry you had such an experience. That's disgusting behaviour. Something I find terrifying is that every woman I've met and spoken to about this sort of thing has, like you say, a story. No one deserves that and the fact it's such a widespread, common issue is horrific. I think this episode really helps to show how regardless of how women act it's ultimately down to men to DO BETTER with these sorts of issues. It's where the root of the problem lies.
Tyler Alexander
2025-05-03 19:34:35 +0000 UTCThe thing I hate most about the Parker thing, is that you see Buffy trying so hard to find a ‘normal’ relationship. After the trauma with Angel, then he left her. Coupled with feelings of abandonment from her father and even previous betrayal by Giles in Helpless. She still is trying to be brave and open to something. This experience would affect anyone but with someone who has trusted men and almost every man In her life has left or betrayed her it’s pretty crushing for her confidence. I think that’s why so many people hate Parker. It’s hard enough to trust men in the world. Almost every woman would have had experiences like this and understand what it’s like to navigate intimate relationships at this age. Often you end up being really closed off to try and prevent yourself falling prey to various male behaviours. Which ends up making things hard. I actually had a very scary experience when I was about 17/18. I had planned to go with some friends to the beach. The guy friend who was driving showed up to pick me up and I thought nothing of the fact he was alone because he lived near me and our friends lived in the next suburb. Except they had cancelled last minute, which he told me after we had driven off. I was a bit uncomfortable that he didn’t tell me before we left but there hadn’t been any red flags about him so I thought very little of it. We had hung out in a group a fair bit and it wasn’t that odd as I hung out with guy friends a lot. We got there and went for a swim and chatted and read on the beach for a while, went to get some food and I tried to pay for my own, then he tried to pay for me and I really didn’t want to give him the wrong idea so I insisted on paying for my own, then his behaviour immediately shifted. After we ate I decided I wanted to go home and we got back in the car. That car trip home was terrifying. He tried to hold my hand and I pulled away then he started accusing me of all sorts of rediculous things. Trying to say I had given him mixed messages etc that I was interested. I was really clear that I was not interested and that if that’s what he intended the day to be he shouldn’t have lied to me and set up this whole thing and then expected me to just go along with it. He started yelling and driving crazy and I was terrified. I remember just being so damn quiet and trying not to aggravate him further. I even apologised in an attempt to calm him down so he didn’t cause an accident. When he dropped me off I very calmly and casually said goodbye and then when he next called me I told him not to call me any more. He stalked me and harassed me for months. The thing is, I had until that point thought he was a decent guy. I had seen no red flags and generally I had a pretty good judgement with people. We had a number of common friends, some of whom had been friends with him for most of high school. They could barely believe what happened and what he had continued to do for months. I ended up having to change my mobile number and one of our mutual friends spoke to him (and I’m pretty sure her brother had a word with him too). So eventually the letters and flowers and other random things had stopped turning up at my house and he backed off. I came very close to involving the police. So yeah when people really want to manipulate you they can. Almost every young woman (especially growing up as a teen at the time this was written and aired), has at least 1 terrible story. I had many friends who had been assaulted, tricked like Buffy was in this ep, dated abusive guys. The world of dating was extremely hard in the late 90s early 2000s for women. I’d say it’s still hard but things have improved a lot as I have some younger friends that just had a lot less terrible experiences. But yeah it’s a really realistic and relevant topic. Especially at the time.
Sarah_J_Salerno
2025-05-03 15:29:22 +0000 UTCHoooold on there a second - Harmony was in Supernatural? What's her name.. Mercedes McNab? I remember Tara was in Supernatural as a vampire, but so was Harmony? I missed that. Wild!
Moxie Swagger
2025-05-03 10:21:57 +0000 UTCLove this episode. Only time I'm gonna give you a spoiler. 🙊🙊🙊 Harmony dies at the hands of Dean Winchester. 🙊 lol. Sorry. (Just in case vampire Harmony felt in any way shape or form familiar... Supernatural Season 3). And I just realized the stone of Amara .... another easter egg in Supernatural that I just caught. Erik Kripke really loved Buffy. Cheers.
Hekate_TanyaTMS
2025-05-03 09:02:28 +0000 UTC
