No QNA this week

Dam Barbarian you are so on the money awesome questions for me to answer. I have one good friend out of state and the one in state is a workaholic so I’m fucked. We don’t go out and I never even thought about catch and release before finding MRP. I dress pretty good. How the fuck does a grown ass man make redpilled friends?

ThatGuy

Will zip amazing suggestions thank you!!!

ThatGuy

Welcome to the promised land! Advice, Take it or leave it! 1 - You see from the RP process that your instincts are BS and need to be updated, same as your preferences. What you think you like is most likely some other cunts programming. test everything, things you love, hate. everything is in the air. 2 - Become what I call a TRY-Sexual. Give everything a go at least 3 times before putting into a category of keep or discard. Understand why you like it, why you don't and how to improve it.

will zill

@will zill- Absolutely, I’ve never truly lived to my own script. I’m finding it very difficult to figure out what my script really is, after all these years of not having one.

ErikTheRed

will - I don't see your assumptions as helpful

4thMostImportant

Ban Mido's got a point. You said "logistics" without knowing what it means smh There are certain times to swing your dick around but reoccurring health issues with your daughter isn't one of them. Cutting gluten, lactose, bad sugars is barely an inconvenience, learn to compromise and cooperate on important issues instead of trying to "win".

will zill

"In my after college early 20s I worked and partied, I didn’t do a lot of deep thinking or consider the future much. In my late 20s I got married and had a family, I made my wife and kids my whole life. Now I’m in my mid 30s, back to square one, kids half the time, no life other than lift eat sleep, no single friends. I keep telling myself to take it day by day" You have lived your life according to someone else's script.

will zill

You are taking the jabs personally. You are waiting too long to address her outbursts. You reacted out of frustration or anger. You let it go on for too long. You second last paragraph wreaks of victim mentality. In your words it was a "discussion" but you expect a weak ass statement to be taken as fact.

will zill

Follow up from this week: Christmas ended up being great. I did Christmas with the kids on the 23rd, and family over for pizza on the 24th. It was the most drama free, relaxing holidays I’ve ever had. Also I was able to spend way more time playing with the kids, than previous years, again no drama, cooking, cleaning, fights, etc. just lots of fun.

ErikTheRed

She is a dentist sparks my spider senses. Only you know. I would gues you are dealing with a woman that has been raised to be a man… constantly challenging her spouse…. I agree with you. Cocky funny… other tricks have to be earned. At some point you just say; I am not into photo shoots all the time. Buy a selfie stick. Basically lay down the boundary. This is my frame: this is gravity: When I travel, hang out I like to be in the moment. Not composing photos for social media. Take it or leave it. Exstrapolate that to other issues. Only you know if you are providing to much beta, alpha…. Sometimes, especially hot, financially secure…. Women are not ready for long term relationships. You might be interested in chicken shit posts and my comment. About Chad / alpha… beta. Ignore the health and addiction part… does not aply to you.

Cousin Eddie

Man I remember being that 16-17yrs and wanting to emulate anime super powers. Ended up breaking my hand trying to punch through a wall (guess I'm not an anime hero) The instagram stunt smells like a covert contract. Also Insta interactions don't mean much I wonder if you're overinvested in trying to get sex out of your wife instead of just being an attractive man around the house?

Ban Mido

Regarding your date logistics, you don't have to physically escalate in front of em kids. Just build sexual tension with strong eye contact and a laid-back bodylanguage. Then suggest you can change venues to a more private place. Eg: my logistics is bar -> ice cream -> walk in the park -> back to my place. I started shortening and bringing them directly home if I feel she's sexually attracted to me (based on her bodylanguage). You can physically escalate as you walk by holding her hand

Ban Mido

Rollo's YouTube stuff used to be good, but now it's 4 hours of reacting to his critics. Manosphere gossip.

Gearo's Journey

FR: * Last week: Went on a date with a 36y/HB4 on Tuesday night. Took her to my usual bar but gamed without a "script" in my head. I just let the conversation flow but ensured it stayed on lighter topics or about her. I didn't talk about sex but maintained strong eye contact and escalated. Got her to move closer to me on the couch during the conversation. Moved in for the kiss at the right time. Got her wanting more. Suggested we go back to my place. Brought her home, made-out, fondled her tits and fingered her. She didn't want to sleep on the first night so pulled back. She asked what else she could do for me so I wanted to try something. Told her I wanted to jerk off on her tits. Usually I'll just decline the offer and prefer if we both were having sex and getting to an orgasm. This time I wanted to try just cumming on a girl even though she didn't get her pleasure. We made out and I came on her tits. She went home later in the night. Scheduled another date for Friday evening * Last week: On Friday evening, she came over. She offered to order food as I got the drinks last time. We played some card games, ate pizza, made out and we smashed after dinner. We actually just hung out like friends and smashed. One thing I realized from this experience was that I didn't need to be some alpha, giga-chad, ripped-dude to have casual fwb/fling. Just right logistics, basic game, and not talking like a social retard is enough to have a side fling going. * Last week: Met a 34y/HB6 on a date on Thursday night. By this time I've gotten pretty comfortable in running a freestyle game; I asked a few questions to get her to open up but also gave cocky-funny answers, weaved the conversation between identifying potential murder victims to what do humans taste like to licking/biting her hand to compare human meat texture to chicken meat. Got some ice cream and took her back to my place. Ordered some food and played a Bollywood movie for her. We made out after dinner, got her down to her panties but she didn't want to continue because of her periods. Pulled back and tried again but still resistant so I dropped it and we just cuddled. She went home later in the night and we scheduled to meet on Sunday evening when her period is over. She flaked on Sunday. Tried scheduling once more for this week but she's non-committal so soft-nexting * I realize now I shouldn't have given away free cuddles when she didn't want to have sex. I guess this would be the "cart-before-the-horse" mental model where I'm giving away beta privileges before a girl has earned it * Last week: Took a 23y/HB6 who was visiting her family for the holidays out on a date last Saturday. She doesn't drink so just took her for some hot chocolate and fries. More loosened training-wheels for my game. Brought her home, some netflix and we hooked up. She wanted me to play with her ass but as I was lubing & fingering it up she got emotional. I just offered to cuddle and relax for a bit. She then started opening up and dumping her life onto me (onto my chest specifically with a side helping of snot). She asked me about my life and I said I don't open up easily. I got tired and let her stay the night. Woke up late and she was very affectionate; she wanted me to fuck her in her ass and I finally got to try anal for the first time. Sunday morning she planned to go bouldering and I joined her (I like bouldering but I don't have a car so I don't go regularly). Had some lunch, took a nap at my place and she drove back home to her family. We planned to meet on Tuesday night before she left town. But gave some excuse about falling sick and can't make it. * Another eg where I realize now I'm not applying the rules from HumanSockPuppet guide New updates: * So I've been texting this 24y/HB5 since Wednesday. Initially scheduled the first date for Sunday as I didn't want to travel to her city but we started texting a lot with some light sexual teasing. Did a quick video call on Wednesday night and by Thursday she was very eager to meet me. Told her she can visit me in the evening if she wants. She took an Uber to come to my place. Bit of small talk, escalated and we hooked up. Honestly she seems very inexperienced and was uncomfortably silent during sex. I kept trying to reassure her she can tell me how she's feeling honestly but she kept saying she's fine. At some point I took a break for a bit and she said she wanted to go home. Asked if she was anxious about anything and she was concerned if the condom had holes; I told her I just opened the pack and if it had holes we can sue the company. Anyway to make her feel at ease I filled the condom with water to check if it leaked in front of her; it was water proof. She still wanted to go home and I offered to book an Uber for her back home. She went home and texted she had a good time and thanked me for being patient with her. In the morning she hasn't texted as much as yesterday (which is a good thing) but now I don't know what went wrong or if I did something wrong. I don't know how to read this girl * Couch, you'd be proud of me. I'm almost to the point where now my schedule is filling up quickly with dates and I need to cancel/postpone dates. So I had initially planned to hangout with the girl from first paragraph (calling her plate#1) on Friday evening and a new date for Saturday evening. But the out-of-town girl (23y/HB6) from 4th paragraph wanted to hangout once more before she left town on Saturday. So had to cancel the Saturday date and move the plate#1 to Saturday. * Also since this is the last post of this year wanted to take a moment to thank you and everyone who guided me so far. Two of the best lessons I learnt that really improved my outcomes this year was #1. Monkmode is BS & #2. Action in the past-tense. Thanks and a happy new year to everyone

Ban Mido

Maybe you need to find some goals outside of work, like learning a musical instrument, building a house, qualifying for the Boston Marathon. Better if it's something that brings you into contact with like-minded men. And it also, sounds like staying home and staring at the walls on major holidays is not working ... maybe a ski trip or a European river cruise, or babysit Couch's dogs during holiday remodeling.

Gearo's Journey

Dating I set up a date with a chick from OLD app. Set logistics by text to meet at a brewery, she agreed then said "I take it you're a meet right away instead of texting first type of person" I responded: Yeah I'm an in-person type of guy. We meet at a local brewery and I made a point to give her a good hug when first meeting to break the touch barrier, I could feel her leaning in. We sit down and the brewery is fucking filled with kids and families and that threw me off completely. She talked a ton, which was my plan to keep her talking most of the time. I called it quits after I finished my beer, she hugged me before we left and I told her to text me if she wants to hang out again. I didn't have the balls to escalate between the kids running around and her being more uptight than what I'm used to, this is something I need to work on - creating a playful atmosphere during dates, especially around the more uptight girls. Parenting My daughter has been complaining about occasional stomach aches for the past few weeks. She called home from school to me and I picked her up due to her stomach hurting. Ex asked if I was taking daughter to the dr, kid seemed fine so I said "I don't see any reason to", ex proceeded to text that I should take her, I didn't respond again. Ex has been implanting all sorts of neurotic shit into my daughters head - "its because of bread, gluten, milk, etc" with no logic to back that up, essentially scaring the kid from eating certain things. Daughter woke up next day, said tummy hurt again. I took her in to see the DR since she did not want to attend school again. Doctor gave a cause and treatment (it's nothing serious). Treatment plan takes 2 months to see if things improve. I send my ex the full protocol suggested by the doctor and dr's instructions, and ex is now silent on the issue and briefly told me she hasn't followed the dr's instructions yet during her parenting time. Treatment is given daily and we do 50/50 split on parenting time - I am sending one more email to my ex that I would like to follow the dr's instructions but I am stopping the treatment on my end since we both need to follow the plan for it to work, and to let me know if she is going to follow the treatment plan so we can start it back up. Christmas events Went to my work xmas party solo. I work with a lot of 20-25 yr olds who were partying it up and asking me to do shots, I declined but made sure to keep it fun and "you guys enjoy, do one for me" - I'm their manager. There are two babes I work with that were being noticeably touchy towards me, they both had dates, one kept finding me and would squeeze my arm to get my attention. Interesting dynamic going to these things as "the hot divorced guy" - am I hot? IDK, but I'm going to act like it. Xmas Eve - first one without my kids. House was quiet, I was alone and feeling sad. I used to host a party with mostly wife's family xmas Eve in the past. They were a fun group. On xmas took my kids to my parents and it was chaos. I rented National Lampoon and chilled out with the kids and my cousins to avoid the chaos. 7 pm rolled around and kids still havent had a chance to open their presents. I went to the kitchen and loudly announced that the kids are opening their presents in 15 mins who over wants to watch them can but their not waiting any longer then we're having dessert and leaving. Everyone assembled in and I realized they just needed someone to take charge.

4thMostImportant

Yea... this is helping me reflect a lot. As for how she ranks? Pretty low, that's part of the reason I was unreactive to the threat over the phone. I was enjoying a travel fuck buddy, but then things got too naggy/bitchy consistently, which could have been her way of looking for comfort. Also anyone would jump onto that gig. Making her feel comfort? I bought the plane ticket to spend New Years with her and her family. I am consistently there for her. Cuddles. Dinner. Forehead kisses. I took care of her whole family when they visited and she was at clinic for the day. I'll get the book to understand what else can be done here. Offering me something other than sex has been a hard thing with me. I bodybuild so I used to not give any control over my food either. I have gotten better. She did have chicken rice and chicken broth for me when I came over once, unfortunately i was fasting and I don't think i gave enough praise in the moment to her. I did tell her i noticed the effort and was extremely appreciative of it a couple days after. She did buy me coffees from time to time with her starbucks gift card which seemed to give her some semblance of giving. I did make a joke out of it the last day we were together though which i thought was funny but can see now it probably didn't help her neuroticism. Something along the lines of "one coffee for one trip, I still owe you a trip" I did also try and covertly point her in the direction of baked goods for me to provide something. We do tend to start off every boundary I have with a "I'm not good enough for you" comment from her.

Ate My Wheaties

FR 20 With Christmas approaching and not having my kids I can’t help but wonder if I made the right choice. I had the opportunity to take my ex wife back after she went through her mid life slut phase, and man it would be nice to have a family Christmas again. Maybe ignorance was bliss…? I’m having trouble finding my mental point of origin. I got in shape last year, I changed my mental model, 100% Dad 50% of the time, over the summer I added ten to my notch count, had six plates, etc. but I still feel lost. I have a girlfriend who is on paper what I wanted, but I don’t love her the same way I loved my wife. Have I become jaded through this journey? Maybe the way I loved my ex wife was the wrong way to love someone in first place, and this is actually what it’s supposed to be like. In my after college early 20s I worked and partied, I didn’t do a lot of deep thinking or consider the future much. In my late 20s I got married and had a family, I made my wife and kids my whole life. Now I’m in my mid 30s, back to square one, kids half the time, no life other than lift eat sleep, no single friends. I keep telling myself to take it day by day. I’m at the top of my career, I’m saving money with no goal. I spend as much time as I can with my kids, but I know this isn’t a vision for the future as they will grow up eventually. I’m having trouble seeing what my personal vision is, I guess this is the first time in my life I’ve ever really thought for myself. It just makes me depressed, focussing on all of my past mistakes, envisioning what could’ve been. I know no one can tell me what to do with my life, I’ve already tried that and it got me here, it’s just really hard to know what I want out of life when everything I thought I wanted was taken away, and now I don’t even have a hill to die on. Spending Christmas alone is one thing, but spending it alone when your ex wife so easily inserted some other shlub to replace you, just makes it that much worse. Remember Cypher from the original Matrix, maybe he was the only one who had it right, get reinserted and forget everything, ignorance is bliss. Anyways, enough reflection. On Sunday my girlfriend was over and I could tell something was off. For background, I mostly text for logistics and if we’re not together I don’t talk to her much, I like to save conversation for in person, and this was after a few days apart. As I’m getting out of the shower she bombards me with the following: Her - So are you not invested in this relationship? You’re such a private person, you turn your phone when you text around me, you still have condoms on your nightstand, etc… Me - So you don’t trust me? I don’t think this is going to work if you can’t trust me. Her - No, no I trust you. Me - So when I asked you earlier if something was bothering you, you thought it was okay to lie to me? Her - I didn’t lie, it just wasn’t the right time to talk about it. Me - Okay so you just didn’t tell the truth, sounds like lying to me, and the right time to have this conversation is when I’m walking out of the shower in a different room? Do you know whom I was texting? Have you been keeping count of the condoms? Is this coming from a place of logic or are you being irrational? Her - I’m sorry, I’m being irrational. I don’t know how well I handled this. I’m so used to high conflict conversations with my ex wife that for her to just fold all of a sudden is just foreign to me. Every since my divorce I have this thought always in the back of my head, “If she doesn’t like it she knows where the door is, and I’ll just move on to the next one, or maybe none at all for a while, I really don’t care”. I am just so done with having drama in my life, yeah it makes me sound like a dick, but at least I’m not a doormat.

ErikTheRed

It sounds like comfort tests to me. Chicks have different levels of neuroticism. Some will need more drama than others. You claim to have abundance, how does she rank for you on this scale? What are you willing to put up with? Paying for everything yeah it is beta. However you are mostly providing excitement(alpha). What are you doing that's making her feel comfortable? They also want to feel a sense of some control. e.g. like they can do something to earn that comfort when they need it. e.g. "I'll pay for you flight". It's not enough to just give comfort randomly. They need to feel like they can contribute offer something other than sex that you respond to. You get to choose what you respond to. If you continue to be aloof, she will never figure out how to please you. Have you read Married Man sex life primer? Has list of beta things, might give you an idea.

Op Sec

@OpSec The "I want to see you" after the "I don't see this going past new years" and the "I don't think you should come anymore" is a comfort test? A shitty one right? I feel as if the wind blows to the west when I am not with this chick I get this. Isn't the first time. I personally do not like that big of a roller coaster, but maybe this is me expecting her to be more like a man? I was just with you in Alaska while you interviewed for a residency in which I planned and payed for everything and we both had a blast. Is that not the Beta (comfort) piece? In it for her? I have the ability to give new experiences, travel, be location independent for those new experiences. She called me every day for 4 months on days we weren't together asking for advice on work/life ect. I feel as if she knew she had a lot, maybe too much and she didn't feel like she deserved it? I often got this sense. A "Hey I am going to end this, but don't let me. Please tell me its real"

Ate My Wheaties

I get the sense that you are failing comfort tests by treating them like shit tests. The weird questions are definitely (shitty) comfort tests. I want to see you and I'll fly you over is definitely a comfort test. Taking the picture again, perhaps. I'm seeing some lack of frame in that you don't exactly have vision. What do you want the relationship to look like? Assume it's there and let her be part of that, or not. What's in it for her to stay with you? Doesn't sound like you like her that much anyway.

Op Sec

"I lost frame but didn't call my wife a cunt" or I failed at fitness tests. The situation started when my goddaughter got her birthday. After inquiring without too much success what she is interested in, I decided that she is now old enough to receive flowers and that would make me happy. So I organized that and kept the surprise. It seems it was the perfect gift. She was surprised and enjoyed it. Everybody enjoyed it. Side note, her mum was also happy as hell, as she put the flowers in the kitchen "so that everybody could enjoy it" (as she wrote me). On the weekend we travelled to their place to celebrate in person. Upon arrival everybody was joyful and they told me how happy my goddaughter was with the flowers, how a great idea it was. Then it started. As soon as I opiniated something, my wife gave a counter point along the lines of "yeah, not really, what it is, is that ..." which implied that I was somehow wrong. Later when given the choice of cup for for her coffee, she explicitly chose and said "I will have my coffee in this cup as my idnetical cup home was broken by someone". Guess who broke it ? that was like 5 years ago. What broke the camel's back, was when I decided to read the rules on a lottery ticket using my phone to magnify the text (even insurance contract are written in a bigger font). She started laughing at me for it. So I said "It would be knowned if you ever said something nice to me once". It may not have been the best idea, but at least it was effective to stop the dynamic. Maybe too effective. I don't like being dismissed like that. That is why I wonder how to handle this kind of situation differently. I see the situation as a massive fitness test, one after another. So I should have AA all of that, but felt akward to me in the moment. I was also slow to recognize the situation. I don't think she was consciously bad mouthing me or wanted to be disrespectful. On the following week, I decided to buy some "christmas flowers" to decorate the living room for the season. She said with insistance "those are nice flowers, it is a good idea". I replied with "yeah, I think too". I could have asked every one to leave for 5 minutes, so that I talked to her privately that "This is not on". When you are at some friends house, this seemed difficult to me. Maybe I should have taken her to a different room to talked to her. It is also difficult to put your foot down and leave. Again you are at some friends house, the logistics is tricky as we have only one car, far from home, etc... I have noticed that it is also something that comes up often. We were all in the car discussing the best road to get somewhere. I said "we took the road recommended by Google which is usually the shortest". She added "No it is not really, we have ...". Dismissed again. Next time I will AA or AM the situation, poke fun left and right, be the ass in the discussion. Who cares if the discussion end up being productive.

Mac

yeah, you aren't doing it right, but you are doing it, so that's good. You are constantly looking for the girls approval. You don't want to be the validation seeker, you want to be the validation giver. Make sure that it's more than one girl at a time, and that will fix most of your issues. First date, you are catering to the girl because you think she needs time to warm up. The right guy would fuck her that night. Do the market thing for an hour, and then have an idea of what you could do next. Offer that up. Have a plan that works to your strengths. Showing off is self qualification and thus validation seeking. Who cares what her love language is? You aren't fucking her yet. When she asks your age, don't give a straight answer. Pick a ridiculously wrong age. Yes, you do need to lead.

Op Sec

End of year report: 2023 was a very good year for me. Business wise it turned very well for me. I wrote about the job a club that I wanted in April or so. I didn’t get that I only got a way smaller role there as the third guy for karaoke Wednesday. Which turned so far into few days working there. However, I got an even better break thanks to me visit a barkeeper in a stake restaurant with a bar attached to it at a Thursday in March. I got introduced to the main dj there. He was getting an office job in May and needed to reduce his dj work there. So he needed a guy to take a few days a months from him and since I had worked there before and nobody complained about me. I told him in May that I need at least two days a month working there to pay my bills and we made an agreement about that. He also gave me a birthday party he couldn’t do and we worked together on few other occasions which worked every time fine. Thanks to my consistency, doing no nonsense, don’t drink me silly for free and do any office politics. In Christmas time I got a lot more jobs there. He told me yesterday he plans to give me at least three days of work for January and February which are usually very bad month for djs accept when you do Aprés Ski in the mountains. So work turned out very good. I bought a lot of new dj equipment and are writing it of from tax including the brand-new laptop I’m writing this on I learned a whole lot about the tax system in Austria and I’m going use it. It turned out very good to follow couch’s advice on getting a war chest. I made a mistake about taxes here, so I had to pay some not small amount of taxes. I won’t go into detail about that. The mistake will be corrected in the beginning of January cause of some law reasons. Also, I had to pay some extra health insurance. First order of the first half of 2024 is to rebuild the war chest. I could go on about the things I learned about whamen this year. One thing I learned about and whamen in the last two months was that when work got really stressful, I was really glad to come home and only have peace, silence and an empty bed I could simply lay in and sleep. As I know how much couch love new year’s resolution, I make just one for him: Finishing the community center in Stardew Valley in the first-year next year. Cheers and Happy New Year guys.

TheSilver Bishop

Lately, I have nothing to complain about. I’m having sex with my wife regularly and she blows me, just not every time.Having sex with me factors into her daily planning. e.g. she wanted to clean the house, but figured she wouldn’t want to after wards so fucked me first. I’m starting to see myself in some of the late stage reports. I caught myself trying to stir shit up to make things more difficult, but there was a report on that(in Dread), so I stopped that before I started. With my wife I’m watching, “Who’s line is it anyway, the show where the points don’t matter, like wedding rings on business trips”. She says, “Why don’t they ever talk about the victims of business trips?”. I’ve been laughing about this to myself ever since. I had frame audiobook playing in the car on the way to the gym. Near the end is this choice set of words. “Even the worst chore is a manifestation of your autonomy” Powerful, I’ve been attempting to live in alignment with this. Christmass, my parents came over. me to my wife: “My parents say you seem really happy”, “oh it’s all the stuff I’ve been doing”. I’ve had a bunch of wins, and zero credit, over and over. No sense in arguing it, either. Let everyone think it is stuff they are doing, at least if it’s stuff I would prefer they did anyway. Christmas ended up being fun and easy. It’s exhausting seeking validation, so when I stopped doing it things got better. I didn’t roll out the red carpet, and I teased mercilessly. dad: “you know why I have such a big office”, me: “to compensate for a small penis?”. dad: “Can you throw youtube on the tv” (so he could annoy me by watching bad youtube videos about ⅓ of the way through), me: “No”, dad: “please”, me: “No”, he went to bed after that. Catch and Release is something I will have to continue to work on. I’ve lost some of the motivation for it. It was somehow easier when the thought was maybe I’ll cheat, or move on soon. It was like, I had intention when I talked to girls and that was helpful. Now it is to become more attractive by practicing my skill set, and it’s always good if they/you can tear down your ego some. —-------------------------------------------- On the Kevin Samuels -> Pearl -> to Rian pipeline. I listened to something while taking regular walks. I frequently went down some rabbit hole, e.g. early Altucher, or Cal Newport. I was tired of listening to Scott Adams argue with tards about masks for the 100th time. Somewhere around this time, Tate was getting banned. So that made me curious about this space. I found Kevin Samuels entertaining and thought perhaps this is useful. I was dissatisfied with my sex life and this guy would shit on whamen and tell me what I wanted to hear. He was right about one thing, I would do very well if I was single. I eventually ran out of his stuff, found out he died, with a hooker in his room. So much for being “high value”. Pearl was a little bit more of the same but less entertaining. Somehow youtube figured I should also see Rollo. I think Rollo talked shit on Pearl. So, I wanted to hear what he had to say. Rollo was far more helpful than anything else so far. I listened to a ton of his early podcast and read The Rational Male. He helped me release some of the toxic shame when he joked “My wife’s boyfriend doesn’t let me listen to Rollo”. A good mockery is always effective. However, Rollo is tedious and repetitive as hell. Eventually, I couldn’t listen anymore even at 2.6x speed. Still did because nothing better. I caught Rian talking some shit on Rule zero. Something about someone being a narcissist. I thought, oh yeah, I see it. Somehow Rian’s shit talking is educational as well. The first few things I listened to were manosphere mornings and chick tocks. Specifically tearing down some of these ideas. I found it entertaining and educational at the time. Although looking back, it’s probably because it was familiar enough. Then I watched more and more of the channel. I would have booked a consultation but that was done by then, instead, I found my way to the Patreon. Something like a red morning titled: “Why Pearl is full of shit”. Or a shorter video that got to the point, would have gotten me in the funnel much sooner. Kicking the pedestal from underneath women was good, but some of the mental models he had were bs. Yeah, I guess it’s all about shit talking.

Op Sec

Need help getting dating right again lol. I might be crushing a bit too hard and putting in too much effort, how do i know when It’s giving the right amount vs too much. I fear I’m treating her like a GF before we even kissed, but don’t know how else to act, what not to do, how to move things along without doing that. It’s just who I am lol. Had 2 dates with a girl(29)who i met at a friends’s birthday party. The 1st date was at the Christmas market for 1h, we grabbed some food, explored the market, laughed a lot. I chose the 1h date as a strategy since I know she takes a long time warming up to people and long dates won’t work right off the bat. Also was good for me to see if I feel good with her. 2nd date was at my place to cook together from 2pm to 5pm ( I wanted to show off a bit, but also see how she contributes, get her comfy with my place for date 3 which will be a movie night). Since we only had 3 hours I fetched her from her work and drove her home because this saved us at least 1 h of time was this too much?). On top of that she said her love language is acts of service and I could see how much she appreciated the gesture. I see some IoI’s from her, for example she remembered when i drove home to Germany for Christmas and wished me a safe journey even though we didn’t have contact for a afew days beforehand. Whenever I text her, even if late at night she always responds in a few minutes. But If I applied the 2/3 rule we prob wouldn’t text much, but when we meet I seeIoI’s (giggling, kino test passes, when looking at something on my phone we stand very close and touch, asked my age, asked for my values ans tances on things ) So third question: This seems like she needs me to lead more in the beginning, is this good or no bueno? Is this NGS again? I feel like I’m still acting and thinking like a woman, how to I get this shit out of my system? Thanks in advance and happy new year!

Joyboy

@will zill it's been maybe a month or so since I posted, but my challenges are relationships and providing comfort. I fuck and am really good at that part. So was looking to see if I missed a comfort test or even if there was one I decided she didn't deserve the comfort from me anyways. Have a habit of talking to women like men and trying to teach them a lesson. Like Barbarian and I came to the conclusion above I need to take chicks less seriously and it came out a little here. Although this just may have been too far gone for me to even give her any cocky funny at this point and I was going on trips knowing I would have fun either way and she was there to fuck. Chick sucked and I did have a couple conversations with friends who were like what are you doing? My response being I had an Olympian(haha a type a, naggy, insecure woman) sparring partner in front of me and I believe I had a couple things I needed to work on if I ever get into a situation where someone worthwhile pursues a relationship with me

Ate My Wheaties

@Barbarian yep working on more Beta (comfort) in a relationship. Same girl and It was blowjob/handjob to completion. You guys ran with the swallowing :) It was always the meta as Rian says with putting someone's needs before your own. This is exactly what I thought when I re read it myself. "I need to not be so serious." Appreciate the feedback. May not have worked with this chick as she had a chip on her shoulder needing to feel intelligent with her Dentist Degree and bitched at me every time she felt talked down to, but I agree 1,000% I need to take things less seriously in general. Think I tried to force fit this person into "girlfriend" when a lot of the signs just weren't there and it came to this and I was pretty over all the constant nagging/bitching despite there being a lot of comfort. Was playing on hard mode with this one feel like I learned a lot to take forward.

Ate My Wheaties

10 yr marriage 3 kids: 6, 9, & 10 lost frame a couple of years ago, been working on reestablishing since discovery of wife spinning plates about 7 mos ago. Was already in shape and enacting alot of the components of dread unknowingly, but obviously not successfully or intentionally. Have trained krav maga for about 2.5 years and achieved a orange belt and train consistently throughout week and lift on off days. Fairly successful in my business of car washes and I have a very nice network with good respect and social proof of preselection. However, in the last 2 years I have not engaged with the social circle very much in her presence after hours etc so she does not necessarily see the external respect. In retrospect I made the kids my mental point of origin since the beginning and can see that I had definitely defaulted to some beta habits. She is high attention & validation seeking so it can get old but you can see how her getting a little attention from some strange would resonate with her. She is also spends alot of time on IG. Prior to marrying & when we were dating, I learned sh also had an insane notch count which I was aware of and knew it was a red flag. She also has a very negative influence from her works set of friends who are also degenerate married wives who are also spinning plates. So since discovery of her plates, I have been more intentional with map. picked up the pace which I was training & gym, & have been more intentional on diet. She has noticed this and it has certainly bothered her as she questions it all the time and gets mad that I stfu & never explain. This has included more stuff around the house, on my standards and schedule. She also complains about this and my continuous initiations (which are rejected) to her main plate who it appears she uses as her emotional tampon. Like most guys, it was hard to believe & the anger phase was very challenging and still get bouts of it from time to time. I have other plate options if I wanted to exercise them but have not thus far as I really wanted to maintain the high ground. Bedroom is all but dead, maybe 3 times in the last quarter and it was mainly duty even though they were initiated by her after all her rejections of my initiations. Bitch of it is the kids, which I am not willing to put in any compromising positions and want to protect as I'm sure is always the case. I also have not gotten all of my ducks in order yet for the exit plan. She has already mentioned to her main plate (who is also married with 3 kids and lives across the country in Connecticut while we live in central florida), that she will "clean me out". She is a good mother for the most part and she is hyper sensitive to shame. So I think I could still have some leverage in that regard with myself being the only one who is aware to the extent of her hideous betrayal of the family. My thoughts were to try and get a post nup in place and give her the opportunity to walk through the broken glass. But the problem is timing. She does biz development work for a financial services company. They are having a conference in Colorado the 1st weekend of Feb. We talked about getting a baby sitter and making a couple days out of it before her conference it which she would stay & I would go back. However, unbeknownst to her, I am aware that the plan is after I leave to meet up there with her main plate which they have been planning. I have not yet decided how I want to deal with this and would love to brainstorm it with all. She has gotten in to a deep emotional gig with this plate having only met him twice in person and at a conference and slept with him once. But she literally texts him good morning first thing she does when she wakes up and they comm throughout the day in which they bitch about each others spouse and dirty talk via text. I know its crazy she is very messed up, you can tell she wants to live in all these different fantasy worlds but is not yet ready to pull the rip cord on the craft she is on. So in a nutshell, working on scorched earth but the timing window is collapsing on me I feel like.

Volare Alto

Hahah Trophy is snug and secure! What would you say is your objective? what were you trying to achieve? Came here to get feedback about what specifically? Where do you see a problem?

will zill

You start the field report doing favours for your partner that YOU fucked up. Then finish the field report stating that you guys have been essentially room mates for months. Do you see an issue? “I feel better just doing my thing” this is cope! Your thing hahaha If your target/objective for initiating is to have sex, you operate in her frame. If your target is just expressing your sexual nature, you operate from your frame. You are a sexual being that has needs and isn’t ashamed of expressing them. YOU Don’t EXPECT to get them met every time. You will express them when you feel it, That is a law of nature.

will zill

“but prior to the drugs, she was basically perfect. Super fun to be around, smart, gorgeous, sex was great, we never fought, we were the couple that everybody thought was going to make it no matter what. There were no issues until the drugs appeared. This guy took that girl away from me” You rat yourself out right here! You never had her! It wasn’t real! Happy, content people don’t become homeless drug addict, FOR NO REASON. You have 2 choices. 1 – Go and do some soul searching and figure out: Why YOU didn’t even see the issues/red flags she had? Why YOU attracted and married someone like that? Go reread NMMNG. 2 – Do this lesson again. Find another one just as messed up or more, get married and divorced again.

will zill

If I remember correctly: you are a Chad that has trouble with getting past 2years in a relationship? Basically: you are working on having more beta qualities. ( you have plenty of alpha (Chad)). Is this the same girl that you have posted on before? The one that did not like swallowing ? For most I would say you handled this well. I would be more playful: -“would you hook up with your ex if we got in a fight…. If your friends egg you on” —- Response: “ this sounds like the movie road house! What a great movie… swayze is a real man! …. What were we talking about again? O ya fucking my ex at a bar in front of my friends. lol 😂. get more specific: do I work at the bar? If I fuck her, do you find out in this hypothetical? How bad were we fighting! It’s important!!!! “ Agree and amplify, negative inquiry, misunderstand her and use it to banter… By making this playful you are showing her(closed communication) (not telling her.. open communication) That her emotions are unwarranted. Photo bull shit: take a photo of random stuff…. The sky above her. 😂. Keep smiling …. Let’s get another shot…. When she looks at the photo s she is not even in the frame. “I told you I am an artist! How dare you criticize art!” 😂

Cousin Eddie

I agree with all the comments. Do you lift bro? This neams, are you doing any work. (It is not just about lifting). You need to look into dread. Because you have zero of it. You are the prize. (Or will be once you become the point of origin in your life). Right now you are a function of her. Do you have guy friends? Do you go out with them? Are you doing catch and release? Are you a social animal? Do you dress well? Weight needs to be addressed as if you were single. Learn what scorched earth is. Also, do not degrade yourself (last sentence.). No need to sign off or thank anyone. We all write comments to teach ourselves.

Cousin Eddie

"I keep on initiating as always but sometimes it strikes me how much work for so few enthusiasm." I get this. especially when you got your shit locked down and she acts like a dud. Post about any breakthroughs you have with this please. Sunday Episode. Feed them junk, they become junk! entire fuck around because you let them have sugar for breakfast. What did you learn? What I do sometimes is run cover for my partner. I play the big bad and let my partner be the safety. What we do with the kids also. set clear boundaries and expectations before each activity. helped my partner not be so spastic and she learnt to communicate better. From here we are going to do (scheduled activity) A,B,C What are the rules? no C, no D, no E, no F. If you don't want to do A,B or C you can do G or H If you want to speak to mummy or I you can come and find us, we will be doing I,J or K Do these sitting down together, away from all distractions (tv, noise or busy places). It's a good opportunity to praise/reward good behavior or to emotionally connect if the kids wants some face time. Side note -Having a routine and schedule in place helps, they know what to expect etc.

will zill

"I went and found the Santa hat and left it on the bathroom counter in the master bedroom while she was in the shower. I checked after she left," This is cringe. The only thing I would suggest, be more flirtation all the time. Separate Sex and Intimacy Be overtly sexual ALL THE TIME, even when you don't feel like it. Turn it into a game and have fun with it. Puns, innuendos and initiate when its clearly not the right time and you know you're going to get shot down. learn to let it roll off, laugh it off, Have fun.

will zill

Yea man put it right back up your ass where it came from faggot. Any useful feedback I could consider moving forward besides your version of jerking me off?

Ate My Wheaties

What did you do after SHE put YOUR hand on HER THROAT?

will zill

Congrats you're not a retard! Here is your trophy! Wait a sec.... Only a retard would post about not being a retard. (takes back trophy)

will zill

"But part of me is also afraid that if I do that, the relationship will just fucking die, right? So I don't really know what the right answer is here." The "relationship" is already dead! There is no "relationship"! You are in the early days. Focus on recognizing comfort and shit tests and seeing your mistakes. STFU, Lift and reread NMMNG and WISNIFG Multiple times, Watch Relationship Breakdown playlist on Rian's channel. Lift and internalize mental models. daily workouts? WTF? are you doing bitch workouts? I see you have issues with food. I did "easy way to stop emotional eating" audiobook. Worked for Booze and Cigarettes for me. I have been killing it on the Food front also (use cgpt for meal plans)! Warning only try if your dead serious about a change in lifetsyle otherwise it will only make it harder to quit later on down the track.

will zill

Thank you!

ThatGuy

Thank you!

ThatGuy

Thank you!

ThatGuy

Some notes on hunger management if you care to listen: 1. Get enough sleep, 8h. This was crucial for me. If I ain't sleeping, I am eating. It is way harder to get your self to eat right, if you ain't there 100%. 2. Drink more water. If you are at or above 220lbs drink at least 5 liters (170oz). You will need to work your way up to it, but have a water bottle at your side. Appetite is often just thirst. Believe me. If you ate enough according to your plan but you are hungry: Drink a glas of water. 3. Eat protein with you meals. Half the calories of your meal should be from the protein source. Lean meats, lean feta cheese, lean fish... Protein makes you full. 4. Eat vegetables with your meals. Like 300 - 400g. Cucumber, tomato, zucchini, aubergine, broccoli, cauliflower,.... Eat the vegetables first. And don't track the calories for the vegetables. They will probably need as much calories to be digested as they bring in. No excuses not to eat them. If you stick to all 4 of those points, you will have a way easier time staying in your caloric budget. And if you fuck up one day, don't try to make up to it the next day. You just will fuck up again as it is even harder. Just start every day on a blank slate.

Am I red yet

Ok, a fuckton of borderline autistic word salad going on here, so I'm not sure what the fuck you're actually trying to get at with any of this For the record, it was paradigm 1. I knew about the family history and proceeded anyway. No need for a change here. I should have known better

McChickenshit

She knows you want affection. She is using it against you. You’re not attractive and there is zero dread. Lift, ignore her, go do your own thing, stop being needy, stop seeking validation from her and her crappy cuddles. She is acting like that because you’re not attractive and you have no frame. If my wife doesn’t hug or kiss me, she is missing out, not me.

Beau K

Type A Neurotic Insecure GF Been working on the emotional pillar and understanding on a visceral level that I have options and I bring a shit ton of value to anyone who deserves it. A woman’s emotions aren’t a reflection of me and that “more women have BPD than girlfriend disorder.” Relationship is the womans responsibility Couple of situations here in the last couple of weeks. Went to Alaska with the GF a couple weeks ago. Everything going well. One situation came up: GF asks me to take a picture of her in front of the Airbnb. I take a couple then we head out for the day and to another Airbnb for that night. She looks at said pictures and throws a temper tantrum about how I always take the worst pictures of her. Her: “We have to go back and get a good one” Me: “I’m not doing that” Later in the day asking me to take a picture of her again. My rule is you get one shot. Came over asking me to take it over again. Me: “I’m not doing that, I am not your personal photographer” Her: “You’re a jerk, you know how insecure I am about how I look in pictures. Stomps feet and walks away” Me: put the car keys on the back tire and walk to a coffee shop to chill and read. Text from her 30 mins later: “Where are you?” Me: “At the coffee shop down the street keys on the back tire come pick me up and we can grab some lunch 😊” Her: “I wish you told me that I was freezing” Me: no response. She’s a little pissy for an hour but I ignore and she eventually turns it around seeing how I’m not letting it ruin my day. Last two days of the trip weird questions start popping up “Are you getting bored of me?” “If we got into an argument and you saw your ex at a bar would you sleep with her? What if your friends were there encouraging you to?” Had to laugh at this. An argument? Like it’s the end of the world we have a disagreement? Cute Tuesday on the phone book a flight to spend a week or so with her and her family over new years skiing. Wednesday have a conversation about how she’s feeling “like I am walking on egg shells doing things for you out of fear instead of out of love” Me: “I understand that must be frustrating to feel like it’s not flowing naturally” In the back of my mind I am thinking this chick has never been held to a baseline standard of not being cunty/naggy and she’s getting the feeling I may pull back if she continues to act a certain way. Smart girl. Brings up the picture thing again. “I am not your personal photographer but we can look into hiring you one if you feel like you need it” Thursday get a call. Me: You sound upset Her: I feel like a jerk(starting to cry) Me: Okay Her: I don’t want you to come to Tahoe Me: Okay Her: I can pay for your flight (balling at this point) Me: No it’s okay, have a goodnight Nicole Her: I’m not going to have a goodnight I’m not going to be able to sleep Me: Okay Her: Can we facetime? Me: Why? Her: so I can see you Me: I’m all set, good luck Nicole Her: good luck with what? Me: With Everything I hope you find what you are looking for. Bye 30 minutes later I get another call from her which I don’t answer Followed by a flurry of texts along the lines -That was unfair of her -You can still come I just don’t see this going past new years -If you’re brave enough to deal with my emotional BS I still want to see you. I promise there will be no drama and we’ll have fun -“I really am crazy aren’t I” No response from me. Have enough people that want to spend time with me during the holidays and aren’t play these games. Things y’all think I could improve here?

Ate My Wheaties

You do have a problem with that. Wanting to see your kids is a buffer. Consider talking to a lawyer and getting all the paperwork needed for divorce. Ask him how to get all that you want and then keep the papers in your closet. Also, “Yes I have a meal plan but”. So you don’t follow it. Stop wasting your time if you can’t even keep your mouth shut closed.

Owning My Shit

I really don’t think I have an issue with that. I just want to see my kids and don’t want to get divorce graped. Yes I made a meal plan but I love eating so loosing weight has been really slow.

ThatGuy

You’re afraid of being abandoned. Right now focus on being worth a damn, and that starts with not being obese. Have you got a meal plan?

Owning My Shit

She hasn’t done anything but detach more and more. Truth is I’m afraid If I keep pulling away the relationship will dissolve. It’s nice to hear an external perspective. Yes I‘ve been lifting for 3.5 months daily only taking about 1 day off a month. Still obese though.

ThatGuy

Why are you watching a movie with her? What has she done to deserve it? Everything you do is of value. Right now you won’t believe it because you haven’t put it the work. Do you even lift bro?

Owning My Shit

Going to add: the reason why I bring up the different point of perspective about drug addiction. Changing the paradigm on how you view addiction might help you navigate your relation with your ex. Meaning: paradigm 1: has a family history, her biology, dna made her an addict. She is doomed. Paradigm 2: she had un dealt with pain, health issues. Drugs made her feel normal so she needed them. Horse to a horse lick. Fix the foundation problem and drugs go away. Which is only useful if you are going to try and help this person. More useful if they can conceptualize that.

Cousin Eddie

Field Report 2: Dec 22Nd 2023 Catch, I'm dictating this field report. I hope it comes out all right. I've noticed recently that my wife is very distant. She won't even fucking hug me or kiss me. I'm talking like, not even peck on the lips. We were watching a movie last night, and I told her: -Me: Hey, come sit next to me. -Her: No, I don't want to. I feel comfortable over here. So I said, No more of it. And then we watched a movie. Then towards the end, I tried again. I said: -Me: Hey, why don't you come hang out for a few minutes? And she straight up said, No. -Her: I don't want to snuggle with you. I'm tired. -Me: Okay, then go to bed. And she went to bed. And then earlier this morning, I was leaving, and I said bye to the kids. And I wanted to say bye to her, too. So I asked her to come say bye. -Me: I’m leaving come say bye. -Her: Okay, but I'm only coming to the top of the stairs because I'm making the bed. -Me: Oh, okay, that's really important. And then I looked at her and I just said, Okay, bye. It's obvious to me, it seems like she's been using sex as a weapon for a while. And I just kind of stopped approaching her for sex because I'm sick of getting fucking rejected. And I think since that's no longer working, she's now moved on to using any kind of physical affection as a weapon because she knows it hurts me when she doesn't hug me, when we're not intimate like that. So part of me thinks that I should just stop trying, period. But part of me is also afraid that if I do that, the relationship will just fucking die, right? So I don't really know what the right answer is here. I think I see two options in my mind. Option 1: I nonchalantly try to go in for a hug or a kiss every once in a while. And if I get rejected, I just fucking play it off like I don't give a shit. Option 2: I stop trying to go in for hugs or kisses at all. Let me know what's up, guys. Break this shit down. I feel like a pussy. Love you. —ThatGuy

ThatGuy

Hey, I just realized I didn't answer many of your questions. Yea ur right I believe canceling the trip was a shit test. I slipped up and let my emotions get the best of me on that one. I have been practicing c and r and have been getting decent results I think. It's 50/50 at this point. I'm still building dread, working on me. Working out, eating better, and just got some new clothes. And something that has tremendously helped is I just got accepted into a nursing program. I begin in January. The shit tests have already begun there. But those have been simple to pass. And we have been together about 11 years now.

Palea

Noted

ThatGuy

I sent a dm. I am looking forward to getting hacked, or sending money to Nigeria.

Cousin Eddie

Barbarian, urgent need to talk to you. Contact me via reddit (my user is u/owning-my-shit)

Owning My Shit

No need for introductions, hi’s or goodbies. Your report is basically a Batman origin story. It’s your first report. Learn what a field note is. Learn what an ooda is. Write in the past tense. For example: When you say you lost your frame. What happened, how did you orient yourself (mental models used, options, red pill rules that might aply) , decide , what action did you take. Then an analysis.

Cousin Eddie

Thanks for the analysis. And yes if it came down to it I will go on the trip without her. I already thought of that and made up my mind.

Palea

Field Report 1: Dec 21th 2023 Cauch, First time here. Can't believe I'm paying to talk to degenerates online! Sidenote: My dick is as dry as the desert. My train has been through the following stations: Sexless Marriage > Andrew Tate > Pearl > Kevin Samuels > FreshandFit > Psych Hacks > Reddit MRP > Cauch Stone! June 2022 Read the following: Sex God Methond Saving a Low Sex Marriage The Mindful Attraction Plan Married Man Sex Life Primer No more Mr . Nice Guy Winning through initimidation Dec 2023 Read the following: Praxiology Vol1 Frame Currently Reading: Praxiology Vol2 Dread I started this journed in 2022 without really realizing what redpill was. I was just looking for a way to get more sex in my relationship. I've watched a lot of your videos and been reading your books. Thank you for the time you put into demistifying this shit for us. Strange note I think "The event" first happened a while back. I remember her crying and asking me how she can be a better wife etc. Like probably before 2022 but I downplayed it and rushed to re-assure her that she is perfect. Some more sembarrassing shit. She once said something like I don't even know why you married me and I literally said some shit like if you weren't the best option for me then why would I have married you. I know. Very cringe. I'm confessing my sins here. Anyway lost my frame because I didn't really understand the concept and slowly things went from shitty to very shitty. Last year we've probably only had sex once every month when she is ovulating. Working really hard to undo years of ignorance on my part. Finally said no to a simple "Get that shit for me bitch request" this morning. Love diving into the content and learning new mental frameworks! I've been mindful of the art of not fighting or explaining your reasoning to women and trying to incorporate it more into the fights I now understand she provokes for attention and validation. It is so hard for me to accept that I shouldn't try ot explain the reasoning to her all my social training tells me to treat her like a logical being. This is the hardes thing for me to overcome. Anyway love you guys and thanks again for all you do Cauch! --ThatGuy

ThatGuy

This is field report is about a date I had this week. I think I could have handled it differently and I'd really like feedback on me giving off different "vibes" during dates. The field report starts now: had a date with a girl that i had met and had sex with before, we were reconnecting. when she got into the car my call log showed up on the car media. she asked why her phone number wasnt saved. i asked why does she think it wasnt saved. i knew i had never saved her number. but i didn't want her to know because i was worried she'd go crazy. she said that if i hadnt saved the number it would have been better. but now i think about it better for whom? we went to drink and had wings and chips. she mostly had chips. during our stay in the restaurant/bar we talked avout different things though i think i spoke too much. after dinner we went to my car and stayed there for a bit to warm up. i started restarted our conversation then we drove to this place that has a good view we've been to before. after talking for a bit i kissed her we were holding hands and she started jerking my thumb, then she seemed to realise what she was doing and stopped. we kissed for a bit then she stopped. i pulled back a bit and we talked some more. i kissed her again after some back and forth she put my hand on her neck. at some point she complained about my hand being behind her so she couldnt move back. i tried to avoid trapping her as she called it. at some point she said im giving off different vibes and that she doesnt believe me. im not sure what that means but i figure she meant theres some incongruency between my words, actions and body language. i think this because ive been told that i give off different vibes by one other girl before. at some point i raised her shirt then she said things were happening too fast. at some point she said that she doesnt feel safe alone with me. she also said she wanted to leave but when i got ready to leave she said she didnt mean she wanted to leave. i pulled back, we then talked about music and places for a bit. when she started touching me again. i kissed her and pulled her closer. she kept wanting me to choke her. it was getting late at this time and my mom came to visit me for the holiday or id have taken her to my place already. i usually go to the gym in the morning but since it was so late and i hadnt slept id have to go after work the next day. i was thinking to myself, "just drop her home" but also "things could go further" in hindsight i should have just dropped her home and set another meet up. we had had some edibles that she liked so i told her that next time we meet up id bring some. she said i should bring shroms i said she should get some since she knows which ones are good. at her place i asked her if she was going to invite me in for some water. she replied that next time id come in that its too late. we kissed then she left. i noticed during the drive to get the wings she turned off her phone and that it stayed off cause she wanted to google something and had to use my phone to do it. she turned it on later.

WanderingDrake

Nice work. I would focus less on trying to manipulate Instagram likes and more on action and outcomes. You're the bigger audience to your actions, not your wife.

Dave

Hot chicks have options. They get bad feedback from society which fosters bad decisions. Basically a misguided antenna. This happens to natural chads as well. What advice to would you give to a super hot chick in her prime? That is the advice I would give to a natural chad. My close friends, some are naturals: I would tell (hypothetical , I don’t give others unsolicited advice) them to get deeper in content/hobbies/interests they are interested in. Stop confusing their sexual extravaganzas for anything more than frills. Even, go monk mode. Basically get a life outside o being a fuckboy. Stuff like that…. But that is not for you. I don’t know you. You need to answer that on your own. I was referring to your writing about hooking up with 30 chicks and not finding fulfillment. That part had Nothing to do with your ex/drugs… Ex: go find her and try and save her. Or move on. You already know that… Maybe it was low testosterone? And poor sleep. Poor sleep is a big symptom of low energy. Takes allot of energy to sleep. Why really old people drink coffee at 3 am to go back to bed.

Cousin Eddie

Wasn't me with the low thyroid. This doctor was a hand specialist. I had been to him previously when I broke my hand fighting and she went to see him after a she broke hers in a car accident I'm not sure I follow your hot chick advice thing here. I had a good marriage and it got destroyed by my ex-wife's drug addiction (which again, was apparently created on purpose by this doctor). Not really sure how that connects

McChickenshit

Got to let the bird out of the cage. “Mel”. Ok. You do you. You will have to decide when the parent subsidies end and not react. Meaning not punish them for their choices. Mel needs to get into the real, working world, world asap. The world has a way (tit for tat game theory) of working these things out. Employers and coworkers don’t like pronoun play… it is common sense: would you be exited about a new employee that starts making demands about stuff in the interview? Like a Chinese finger trap. The more you fight it the more it is validated and becomes a thing. But congratulations: you now can drop the parenting hat and go do you. Mel will do Mel and sink or float.

Cousin Eddie

Your initial writing about rp space : When I sense anger or whatever emotion. I remind myself that the core of rp is being your point of origin. It is not about saving a marriage or figuring out women or paleo reasons why relationships behave in certain ways.

Cousin Eddie

Yea I see what u guys ate saying. So I woke up today and just asked if she wanted some coffee ashe said no. My brain tells me to talk about things my instincs are telling me no. I'm thinking just go on like nothing happened

Palea

Forgive me Couch, for I have sinned. It's been about 3 weeks since my last confession. I was riding a losing streak last time I reported, and came into this week having not gotten laid in a long time. The elephant in the room with my wife and I is our oldest child. A few weeks back, my college-student son announced that he wanted to be known as "Melinda." I told him whatever he was going through, I didn't think that was going to fix it. My wife, her mother, and my daughter have decided to be supportive allies. They have started calling him "Mel." To me this hints at cognitive dissonance on the part of the "supportive allies." On some level, they know it's bullshit, so they use a masculine diminutive of his chick name. Mother-in-law still has him come over to do handyman shit. "Yeah, you're a chick ... fix my garbage disposal." Women herd-thinking and fake-ass, surface-level harmony in full effect. The only thing about him even remotely feminine is he needs to hit the gym and put on 20 pounds of mass. He is not choosing between being a man and a woman, he is choosing between being a man and a child. Perhaps the life his father is leading does not seem worth emulating. With my son, I am trying to find the right combination of encouragement and foot-in-the-ass. I am leaning more toward encouragement, but I told him I was going to be more like my father, and start giving him advice even though he didn't ask for it. I have hinted at the above issue in previous field reports, but didn't talk about it directly, telling myself there could be legal reasons not to mention it here. Maybe it was really just hiding the badness, and this problem is more important than getting laid. My local jurisdiction thinks my opinions on this stuff are verboten; but he is not a minor, and him out of my house is actually part of my goal. The time may come to put him on the sidewalk with $1000 and a suit-case, and if his mom goes with him, so be it. The wife and I have both been sick for the last couple of weeks with some nasty virus. That doesn't mean I would have been getting laid otherwise, but I have not been flirting or initiating. We both work at places that shut down for 2 or 3 weeks over Christmas. Friday, night, I finished up working from home a little after 5 o'clock and came out of the home office. Vacation time is on. She says, "I don't have a plan for dinner. Were you planning something?" She works part-time, not giving me sex, and not crushing it as a home-maker. I was in no mood for negotiations. "I'm going down to Corner Craft Brew, I'll get something from whatever catering truck is there and have a beer." I went and took a shower and then left. I posted a picture on Instagram from Corner Craft Brew. 20 minutes later, I noticed this chick "Mandy" had commented on IG: "Oh cool, where you at?" Mandy is 10 years younger, divorced, reasonably hot for her age. She is a professional contact I have only met face-to-face once. She is always the first to like my IG posts, but disappears if I hint at meeting for coffee. If not for the coyness on previous occasions, this would have seemed like her fishing for an invitation. Either way, I think I need to figure out how to leverage her IG responses for Dread and social proof. One notable set of catch and release that night. Three middle aged chicks (turned out to be older than I thought at first look) the prettiest one asked me my name first. I would say I successfully took it to the point where "spontaneity takes planning" becomes a factor. Next morning, I wake up, walk out to the living room, and sit down next to my wife. "Good morning, how are you?" said the wife. "I'm ready for a Christmas BJ miracle," I answered, "do you have a Santa hat?" "I think there is one in the basement, but I have to get ready for the thing with our youngest." I went and found the Santa hat and left it on the bathroom counter in the master bedroom while she was in the shower. I checked after she left, and it had been put away somewhere. There was a big family event the next day that I knew she was stressing over, so I let it lie for a day and a half. After it was over, we watched one of her favorite movies. It kinda' felt like attention she didn't earn, but it was with the kids, too, and it's a decent flick. After the movie was over and the kids wandered off, I said, "Do you have that Santa hat? I have a little task for you." She got up, saying she needed a drink of water, then wandered off. After a few minutes I decided to go in to the master bedroom and grab a hot shower. When I walked in, she said, "I'll give you a BJ, but I am not wearing the hat." I said, "You sure you don't want the hat? It would be fun." She said, "Don't push it. You want to stand or lie down?" She proceeded with a proficient, and reasonably enthusiastic, blow-job. I made appreciative sounds, trying to Make BJ's Great Again. Then I said, "I bet the other ladies down at your office can't suck it like that!" Where she works is female-only, but not something you would associate with dick-sucking, not like "cocktail waitress," for example. I thought it was funny in an incongruous, british-humour, sort of way. She said, "Gross." But she kept sucking. If I can't be cocky-funny with my dick in a chick's mouth, I can't be cocky-funny. Last thing: last year I mentioned in my field report a Ruth Ginsberg Christmas ornament my wife put on the Christmas tree. Couch basically said just tell her to get it the fuck off your tree. A few days ago, I went down and bought a Christmas tree, and put it up. Before I headed out of the house for my next errand, I told her Ruth Buzzy Ginsberg needs to find a new place to hang this year. Wife said, "Oh, I will find another place for her" in a challenging tone. I wondered if there was going to be some kind of passive-aggressive stunt with the ornament, but Ginsberg seems to be taking the year off this time.

Gearo's Journey

Agree with op sec. This is a systemic problem. Not a: do I cancel or not…. Meaning: what is your frame. Is she buying into it. Is there dread. Do you have guy friends… bag routine… She absolutely should not conflict with your parenting call (in front of the kids.) That warrants a a talk: we don’t argue in front of the kids. I think you handled it well. Bow out. Take a breath. Send the kids away… then confront. Generally women prioritize their kids over new lovers. This is the problem with getting involved with single parents. Frame: we are 50/50 parents with the kids. It’s gravity. Or I am out. I read the text about canceling as a shit test. I would have handled it that way. She is saying: I have bad emotions. If you take her seriously you will validate that. Say: “my bag is packed, skies are polished. Looking forward to the trip.” You are correct: the cycle of nuke and repair (type 2). Is not healthy. Work on you. Get a second opinion (c and release). Build dread. Remember that if you move on these same issues will keep coming up unless you address them. How long have you been with her?

Cousin Eddie

Op sec: good points. It felt weird to tell her I did not enjoy myself. I thought I was being honest. But it was validation seeking. Better to tell her at the event: “ not into this, see you at home… or, I will be back to help pack up. (Kind. Of what I did)”.

Cousin Eddie

Your post is a dear Abby question. It puts responsibility on others for your issue. For example: what if I tell you to go seek her out and save her. Does that help? Your situation reminds me of what happens to hot girls: they live it up, run through a bunch of people and realize these things are shallow and in the end solve nothing. (This is what happens to all my friends that are chads). In a way options and success is a hinderance. Mm: what advice would you give to a hot chick that is living in abundance.? But we all know her life is not going anywhere positive. Aka: she is getting ran through, her gages are off because the feedback she gets from the world is skewed… What would you tell her? I have a different take on addiction. It is a sign of low energy (stemming from chronic health problem’s .) So the person does drugs to treat that. Basically to feel normal. This is why it runs in families. weak thyroid or adrenal or overactive life.., will be genetic (or learned in the case of lifestyle). Basically, heal the core problem and the need for drugs goes away. Curious what the initial problem was that she was given a prescription for. This is the core philosophy of many drug treatment protocols that go on to be used as preventative medicine. Gersons cancer treatment evolved from treating drug addicts first. Then moved on to cancer and chronic health. (Many more examples). Ps. This is the same tact I talked about when you posted about your low thyroid hormone. And your sleep issue. Women should see women drs. Especially the primary. Dr (md and do). are totally incompetent when it comes to chronic health. All pharmaceutical make your body weaker and hurt you in the long run. (Though somtimes needed).

Cousin Eddie

Owning is 100% correct here, so I'll pile on. Whatever points you think you earned (and you are right there are no points), you self owned yourself when you said “Interesting. I was bored and not into it at all.” Validation seeking, you need her to know how miserable you were. It's like she said, "you seem like a cool dude", "no no don't worry, I'm a looser". One experiment that might benefit you, is to tell nobody about how you feel about anything for a week. It's better to think of yourself as someone that has value. "You're welcome". That was her way of thanking you. Imagine someone comes up to you, thanks you for something, and then you have to tell them how much you hated doing that. It's like telling them you have a covert contract, and are now expecting more. very off putting. > Women love to flex on their friends with their intact marriage and … ? Who the fuck cares what women want? She wants to flex on her friends about her great marriage, and her great husband, she can earn that. She doesn't have a great marriage, but is sure faking it well. You know what women also love to hear even though they act like they don't. "No". You've already said no to choreplay, this isn't any different.

Op Sec

You are correct: obligated means I had fear of repercussions or abandonment, dealing with a divorce, break up impact on our child…. All the typical covert contracts. The analysis is basically me rewiring for the future. It is not black and white (bionary). These things come up all the time. Sometime I ooda correctly. Sometimes not. Sometimes I blow myself up (am to overt, aggressive…). It helps me to pop the hood publicly on my thinking. 19 year ltr takes time to rewire and can be fustrating.

Cousin Eddie

Are you sure you didn't do the dancing monkey improvement program? She didn't fuck you. Just leave, go out and enjoy yourself, have a few beers, hit on some girls, or sit in a parking lot and read a book. Come back later and don't say anything. The more she rejects you, the more time you spend away, and you'll eventually have time for another girl if you should so choose. She wants you to ask for permission, so it makes her anxious. Your presence is a reward she gets that currently she isn't earning.

Op Sec

It's a roller coaster caused by her, or by external events. If you want it to stop, you need to develop a frame where you build up your value, and start leading while building up some low level dread. Instead it wounds like it goes from 0-100. Then when faced with being alone you reconcile, Type 2 captain type thing. As far as the trip, you put it on her, that she would rather cancel this. Attacking her reputation like that is just going to leave her more entrenched and defensive. This is days later. Memory of a goldfish, start every day like as if all that previous shit didn't happen. What you can do is start each day, with what you want the relationship to look like. She can either be pleasant, or fuck off because you don't have time for bs. In fact you are somewhat relieved when she is unpleasant, it means you don't have to give her any time. Could you have enjoyed the trip regardless of what she did?

Op Sec

You have an addiction to that ex wife of yours. Sounds like you had a decent marriage and there was something about your ex that got you hooked. Like a former alcoholic 6 years later still thinking about having one more drink. I would like to say that in time you might forget about her, but perhaps that addiction was so strong that you never will. One thing that you could stop doing though is compounding the problem. A former alcoholic stays away from bars and accepts that he is going to have this problem. When you resist the feeling of missing your ex, you end up creating another problem. Now you aren't just missing your ex, you are wishing you didn't have these feelings. Perhaps nobody is ever going to measure up to what she used to be. Count your blessings that you got to experience someone like that, someone who is basically dead now.

Op Sec

Have been writing field reports on and off for about 2 years. I can see that the anger phase is over now. I am stable, I don’t have revange fantasies on my wife anymore. Made a pause from the RP space for a couple of months. Before I used to Watche the occasional 4 hour Rollo stuff – totally useless, pure entertainment and somehow anger baiting. One thing I can see now looking back that reading the rational male as the first red pill book in the anger phase almost nuked my marriage. Was the first book I ever read Frame for example, I could have made more progress in shorter time with less acute anger. Instead I can safely say the first RP year for me was so balls deep in the anger phase and whamen aint shit. I really like the mids watches. If I have a free evening I started from episode 1 and listen, take notes from other failures and how to not replicate them in my life. Gym – took down the volume from 8 sets x8 to 4 sets x8 on my excersices. Also took it from 4 days to 3 days. Voila – weights going up, recovery is better, treinign sessions more fun – all freaking positives. Weight – was bulking up to 106 kg, now started cutting again and goal is to get to 95 kg lean in 7 months. A couple of weeks, down 104,6 kg. Taking it slow, I have time and I don’t want to fuck up the gains because of a fast cut. I have also taken tongat ali and fedogia for about 1,5 months. I have about 0,5-1 month of cycle to go, then making the bloodwork to see if it is actually boosting the testo or not. From the gains I have made I am assuming it is helping – or its placebo. Will find out. Also picked up intermittent fasting again. Skipping the breakfast, hitting the gym on empty stomach. Leaving the feeding window from 12 to 20. 8 hours feeding, 16 hours without. Much easier to not overeat, to not consume too much cariories and my head I more clear to make the healthy decisions. No yelling at the kids – been focusing on that for about 3 months now. A couple of slip-ups here and there very rarely but overall I am calm when shit hits the fan. As a side effect the kids are now leaning more towards me for emotional support or if they have a hard time. Also the relationship between me and the kids is more loving and caring. Wife is getting also better but at a much slower pace. I am the role model who sets the standards and reminds her its not ok to lose her shit over trivial mattaers. I have taken an new approach to taking the kids to sleep. We have two, so each parent takes one for story time and sleep. My wife is quite easily irritated when the putting to sleep gets longer than she is comfortable with. So most nights it is ok, kids go to bed and no drama. Some nights I can hear when she is already irritated, going to snap at the kid. I go to the room, tell her to get up, I take it from there. Take responsibility to not let the cild be yelled at and make the kid go to sleep in a non yelled at atmosphare. Started to be a more involved father. Going to singing lessons with my 3 year old and swimming training with the 5 year old. Also added benefit with the swimming lessons is that when she is training, I have the free time to swim about 1000 m cardio. I can see from the time I started to be more involved with them – participate in activities, cook for them, read to them in the evening the relationship with the kids has become more loving. Started to do more chores around the house. Not choreplay but contribute to the household. Shoveling snow outside, making food, cleaning up the kitchen, repairing suff when it is broken around the house. Eveything to my standard and to my timeframe. Have had my wife throw in the occational – why is it done this or that way to which I Have relpied if you want it to be different do it to your standards. This way it is fine by me. After a cople of these I don’t remember getting them for a while. In my mind I was totally fine with the senario where my wife would lay all the work on me and use me as a good workhorse. To my surprise she sees me stepping up and she herself is stepping up, doing more around the house. Catch and release. I do my best to to talk to at least one girl per day cold approach. In the beginning approaching was hard for me but it has gotten much easier. Evan if I don’t use the 3 second rule and I hesitate, I get myself together. In my mind I go like “what the fuck is wrong with you, throwing around 330 lbs for 8 reps on squats and scared to go talk to that cute chick over there?” After that its like – yeah that is a nothing sitaution – go in. It is mostly the eazyest for me to do it in the morning at the gym. A lot of hotties there, jab in some comment, make small talk. Have not gotten any negative reaction yet. Evan if she has to take off the headphones or something else, I calibrate it so it is not during a set, right after it if she is exhausted – make it a situation where it is comfortable to make conversation. “hey, are there weightlifting shoes any good?” – watches me wearing the same ones, smiles and engages in the chat. “ Hey, I see you doing this excersice. Let me show you to get your form better” And other situations like that. Also one thing I notice is everyone is wearing headphones and is as in their own bubble as possible. When I am not wearing them, I am the rare exeption and mentlly it is eazies to approeach because I am more aware of the environment around me. Some situations from the week: Wife works in the hospital. We wake up in the morning, one kid is sick. I say to her that it is money wise smart that she stays at home and I go to work. “But honey, so many other people are home sick right now, I will let everybody down. “ I say that our family comes always first. No one really gives a fuck or says thank you if you go in. They will find a replacement. You need to be there for the kids at home and I will be there for everything else. She understands, makes the call, calls in sick and I can see it in her eyes she is happy with the captain decision. I was going to throw away an old vacum cleaner that had been sitting on the shelf for about half a year. It was already in a plastic bag next to the door. Wife approached me with whats up with that. I told her it was going to go because it is sitting there and to no use. I got told that it was going to her father, maybe he will fix it and work with it. I said ok, deal with it in a week or its in the trash. “you are not throwing away my stuff”. I said one week and left it at that. The same day father in law picked it up. I bought an ice bath to put up in the garage to get my morning cold plunges in. I was setting it up and wife started to poke at all different angles. Why don’t you just take a cold shower? The garage is going to be all wet. It is going to get the humid going etc. Annoying as hell. I told her that I can see you are going to pick all different angles to undermine this idea but all is good and I am going to get this up in the garage and keep on using it. After that it was done – nothing more on this subject. Went to to read a book for the kids in the evening. Wife starts with why is this book next to the bed for x nights in a row and not in the shelf? All books must go in the shelf. I say its some rule you made up. Its there because we read the same book every night and I aint putting it on the shelf until it is finished. Gets in again with all books must be in the shelf. Broken record – it stays there until it is finished. Then gets another angle at me how I treid to throw away her vacume. Seeing how conflict baiting it is getting I say who want to read the book come with me to the living room. Both kids come and wife stays behing in her own anger, we are having a good time. I had a friend visit me the other day. Divorced about 2 years ago. Living the life right now, spinning 4 plates at the time. Three of them are married. My friend is still bluepilled, talks to me like he only wants true love and shit. I listen to this and it makse me wanna puke. I say enjoy the ride and don’t catch feelings for those married hoes. Later that night I initiate with my wife. No go, hard no this time. At that moment I think to myself. My friend is there in his apartement. Married chicks are breaking out of their houses, lying about their whereabouts to their husbands, fucking my friend on the side and she can’t evan walk to the other room to have some fun with me. Man that’s fucked up. Zero interest in making me happy. I keep a level head, wish her a good night and go do my own thing. I keep on initiating as always but sometimes it strikes me how much work for so few enthusiasm. This Sunday we wake up, wife makes pancakes for family. Older one eats a couple but leaves the table to go play and I don’t manage to get her back eating. The problem is if she stays hungry in a while it is going to be a big temper tantrum coming. Also this time. It came, I tried to get the kid to eat. Wife was already freaking out because guests were coming in about 30 minutes and the child was a mess. Started to yell at her. I went to my wife, told her privatly to STFU. Kids was sobbing and sad. Took her in my arms, removed her from the kitchen and my wife and took her to the bedroom. Hugged her, comforted her and asked if she wanted to get some real food instead of the sweet pancakes. Calmed down, took her in my lap to the kitchen, made her some potatoes and chicken and all was solved. Then wife starts sobbing – I am such a bad mother, you are all better of with your dad, maybe I rally fucked up the kids etc. I keep it simple “Stop that bullshit yelling and all will be fine”. Moving forward from that moment I was making plans with a buddy to go to the gym. Wife asks what am I up to. I tell her that I am going to the gym if buddy comes. Then she relpies it would be nice if I asked for her permisson to go to the gym. I just start to laugh. A nursery friend comes over with her mom, I make some chat and fuck off to the gym. All is good and I see how I would reacted to it 2 years ago. “Is it ok if I go to the gym?” – and if she had said no, the old self would have not gone.

Architect

"I was obligated to do a charity school holiday market, by and with my wife". She can't obligate you to do shit. You were afraid of her abandoning you and so complied. The comment you did the following day was you ressentful because of your covert-contract. "I was obligated to go to a Christmas boat light show." Again, you weren't. I see you have some self-awareness about it, but you missed the fear of abandonment. Also, who the fuck cares about all that "analysis" you do if you don't change your actions?

Owning My Shit

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Palea

Late last week my 15 year old daughter (from a previous relationship), who has been alienated from me all her life, text me to see if she could come over this past Sunday. I said of course. On Sunday morning I text to confirm the time with her, and she told me she sick and asked to reschedule for another day. I had mentioned to my wife late last week that my daughter was going to come over on Sunday. So, after I had text with my daughter, I told my wife of the change of plans. I can tell her mood changed. The past two years have been rough, that’s about the time my daughter decided not to come over anymore, so we rarely see her. My wife has been a big part of her life, and has taken it especially hard. On top of this, my ex also filed for more child support. Right after I told my wife of the change of plans, I can hear my 2 step sons 14 and 16, wrestling in the house. I got up from the couch to go tell them to wrestle outside. We have a rule, no wrestling inside the house, ever since they put a massive hole in a wall. Immediately I could hear her from the kitchen telling me to stop and to leave them alone. I told the kids to go outside. Before I knew it, my wife was right behind me telling they boys to stay put, and that they didn’t have to listen to me. This made my blood boil, and before I flipped the fuck out, I walked away for a few minutes. The 16 year old just got his license a couple of months ago, so after I cooled down a bit I asked him to go to the store for some milk and asked him to take the other kids with him for a ride. After he left, I thought about what had just happened since it did take me by surprise. I told my wife that was unacceptable. I told her I know she’s hurting but we need to fix this because I don’t want to be in a home where I am going to be disrespected like that. She tried to argue back, then stayed silent and cried, and I walked away. We didn’t talk the rest of the day. I decided to do a Christmas trip this year instead of a bunch of gifts. A few weeks back we looked for a nice cabin in the snow we could stay at for a few days. We found a nice one, and I sent her money since we were splitting the cost, and she reserved it for us. On Monday, I was pulling up on the drive way when I received a text saying that on Wednesday (today) was the last day to cancel for a full refund. I walked in the house and into the bedroom to change. She was grabbing something in there, when I opened my mouth and told her that she would rather cancel the trip than try to fix this. She began to argue, so I just told her to cancel it then, and I will make plans to leave if she wants me gone. I then just STFU. I didn’t know what I was doing, and I was getting emotional. Today is Wednesday, we haven’t talked much all week. This is not the first time one of us threatens with leaving. A few years back, I actually did leave for a few months. I just want this cycle to stop and I want to handle it in a better way. Not sure if this is something where I need to start the conversation or wait it out and see what happens.

Palea

McChickenshit

40 Holiday covert contracts, type 2 captain example, monk mode The field notes below inspired by a field note last week about getting dragged to holiday events. 1. I was obligated to do a charity school holiday market, by and with my wife. I thought it would be no big deal; a little work. Wife turned into an anxiety filled boss bitch. I complied and got through it. It was a typical competing with the jones chick fueled social media event. The next morning my wife said it was so much fun. Me; “Interesting. I was bored and not into it at all.” She got mad and I stfu. 2. I was obligated to go to a Christmas boat light show. I do not do well in the cold (triggers headaches.) I sat there in pain and tried to act normal. My wife treated me like shit because sitting in the corner of a party (in pain) is not acceptable. I gritted through it. analysis I find myself asking myself: Should I be doing some of these events? .I am in a relationship. Women love to flex on their friends with their intact marriage and … ? Both events were stressful, involved small talk and were in the cold. These things do not mix well with migraines. I took it on the chin and got through them. But should I have? I was unintentionally passive aggressive = I acted nice, but I was in pain and did not want to be there. I get no points for getting through these things. There is no such thing as points. Only I know where the line is for what I should entertain. I could have said to both these events; “I don’t want to go.” No need to explain that I don’t do well in the cold. I pass on a lot of events these days and it is not clearly rational (to others.) And this is my right to pass without feeling guilty. her: “you did that, but you won’t do this.” Me: “Yes” I decide what is worth the headache with no need to rationalize to anyone. 3. I made holiday cards to send out (family photo type thing.) They won’t go out until the 22. The wife said she was unhappy about the mail date, implying I was late, did not meet her standards. I stfu and ignored her. Analysis This is type 2 captain. Constant Complaining Passenger. I do things on my standards and timeline. Some will agree with her and say I am late. 1. who cares what others think. 2.Bullshit. We get cards till late January. 3.Who fucking cares. 4.Scorched earth: I would only give cards to close family. Not mail a 100 out to ??? If this comes up again, and it will. I will say “You just inherited the job.” I have been in close to monk mode since our business picked up (aug) and she overworked herself, is tired, bitchy and emotes on me. I have slowed down hitting on her . We are close to roommates. When I do hit on her, I am more aggressive. Her: “ did you do that… this…”. Me: I Point “gurgle the cock or leave me alone, “. She often laughs and plays along for a min. Sometimes it works. And if it does not I am at least entertained by the interaction, The story you told about your dog running to your house door then waiting for you: dog was still in your frame. When I was constantly hitting on her It started feeling like I was a dancing monkey (dog waiting at the door for owner.) I feel better just doing my thing.

Cousin Eddie

We will have to sit on the couch then :P

Fez

Enjoy your Christmas couch

Daniel

Dang, I haven't posted in about 2months, was looking forward for some feedback. I think I have a good one. Anyway, looking forward to the new office set up. Looking forward to vol 2 on audible since I hate reading.

Palea

Damn! I was actually done early this week.

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