Question for my gays…
Added 2025-03-06 15:42:56 +0000 UTCIs there something you wish you could communicate to people outside of the queer community but you’re not sure how to say it or how to get that message out? Maybe it’s to a family member, a church leader, a political leader, a friend, a former friend, an obviously aging-out drag queen in LA, or whoever! Share it in the comments please…I have an idea. And it might just be crazy enough to work…or fail miserably and cost me everything. Either way, let’s do this!
Thoughts and prayers and tariffs,
The straight one
Comments
Boomer: maybe boomer as a derogatory word needs to stop. @drew you described your parents that way, and I have to say I’m not anywhere near that mentality. I was the kid that grew up in the 60’s , and I learned from women’s lib., Humanrights marches and the music of Bob Dylan. I I learned that everyone deserves a voice for their authentic selves. At 64 I’m a very aware gay man that stays connected to the generations across the board. My nieces are respectively lesbian and trans post surgery non-binary. I’ve been there for it. Stay connected to the younger and older. we can learn so much. 😁❤️🇨🇦
Rob_Nem (rob_gay_poz_art)
2025-03-25 23:17:52 +0000 UTCTo try and get this: a gay man is no less a man and no more a woman. Personality, style are all subjective and every man deserves to be called a man. Gay does not automatically mean fem. Masc. or like a woman. It simply means another kind of man. Admittedly though, wiser and more open minded.🧐😁 liv your podcast and the open funny dialogue.❤️
Rob_Nem (rob_gay_poz_art)
2025-03-23 21:20:26 +0000 UTCThat we know exactly what you're trying to say when you say "sassy". Please just call me a slur, it's less embarassing.
Stepford Husband
2025-03-17 18:40:35 +0000 UTCYes - Grant are you still accepting dick pics
Nick
2025-03-11 09:25:40 +0000 UTCGod, amen.
Hayden of the Nonbinaries
2025-03-10 17:37:43 +0000 UTCMaking gay marriage legal did NOT end queerphobia, clearly. These things are not the same! I agree with you. Also, your username made me giggle!
Hayden of the Nonbinaries
2025-03-10 17:36:35 +0000 UTCThat I'm tired. For a multiple of reasons actually, first and foremost rawdogging through life with sleep apnea without the machine for it, but you know what I meant by tired.
Julien Beauregard
2025-03-09 03:58:16 +0000 UTCI’ve benefitted from marriage equality and I think it’s important. But. I think it took up a lot of space in the gay rights debate, and subsequently a lot of straight people got complacent after Obergefell. It felt like straight people decided the fight for gay people, or even queer people in general, was resolved with that one issue. It’s like how some people said Obama’s election heralded in a “post-racial” America, and that is equally wrong. Not only is marriage equality in danger again, but that single issue wasn’t the be all end all of queer rights.
Sock Ray Blue
2025-03-08 14:36:29 +0000 UTCI want straight, cis people to know that we are fucking terrified and stressed in USA rn. I want them to know they need to stand up with us, support us, check in on us, love on us. Use your fucking voice FOR us, we need it more than ever right now. Being an Ally is more than just not actively working against us. Get in the trenches with us, we need you.
Hayden of the Nonbinaries
2025-03-07 21:58:07 +0000 UTCnope. good luck yall 👍. wash your ass
jon
2025-03-07 02:55:33 +0000 UTCI want the non queer comunity to know how far our gay dollars will go. I want them to understand that anyone under the queer umbrella, is not what the world makes them out to be. I want my family members to look at queer especially trans people the same way they look at me. As a person, with thoughts and feelings. They villainize us because of what they choose to see, but their eyes are open to a world that doesn't want them to see. idk. Seems like alot of very simple things to want. but good will is hard i guess.
Andy B (;
2025-03-06 17:01:54 +0000 UTCI want to have a more positive message, I'm in the "you attract more flies with honey than vinegar" camp, but I'm currently stuck in a dark headspace and just feel so angry at the world, at our country, at Americans right now. I can't even watch a silly video that has anger or criticism because it just sinks me lower, so I do want to be so negative but I just can't find one in this moment. If I have one later down the road in a timely manner I will post it (and it'll be the last one I swear haha), I want to spread love not hate.
bigboarwolf
2025-03-06 16:31:42 +0000 UTCI just wish people understood that we as a community but trans people specifically aren’t your enemies. We just want to exist. Politicians play on your fears and purposely skew things and lie so that they can get into office. I just wish people knew we’re just trying to be happy, healthy, and exist
Vincent
2025-03-06 16:23:15 +0000 UTCThat I’m not some sort of “villain” for refusing to accept relationships with family, friends, etc. who view me as less than or are only able to tolerate who I am. My identity as an individual cannot be surgically removed from my queerness to make others more comfortable. Queer people deserve to be celebrated—not just tolerated—for the full scope of who we are.
Jason Sklenar
2025-03-06 16:21:41 +0000 UTCTo follow up: it is often marginalized communities and activists that have fought tooth and nail, till their last breath, that are responsible for you having the freedoms and privileges you take for granted and are loosing as we speak. It's exhausting, but while you/me/we might be facing this relentless exhaustion for the first time, understand that the LGBTQ+ and marginalized communities have been facing that for centuries. The more cis straight people who choose to put in the work to keep our freedoms and privileges alongside the LGBTQ+ community, the sooner that relentless exhaustion can end. The more likely it CAN end.
bigboarwolf
2025-03-06 16:18:08 +0000 UTCNo two queer people's experience is the same, the same way that no two queer people's sexuality is the same. I feel like far too often things are painted with such broad strokes that not only is there no nuance, there's not even acknowledgement that people are individuals who all experience things differently. Like, my old church literally always saying "gay men" when they were lowkey talking about the entire queer community 🙄
Nicholas Chuba
2025-03-06 16:15:35 +0000 UTCVoting for politicians, policies, and supporting companies financially or with your patronage, despite of regardless of their anti-LGBTQ+ views, communicates that you would rather be comfortable at the expense of other human beings safety. You are actively making the world a less safe place for LGBTQ+ individuals because you don't want to put any effort in. If you think they'll stop at the LGBTQ+ community and not eventually turn their ire and control in your direction, you are dangerously mistaken.
bigboarwolf
2025-03-06 16:10:54 +0000 UTCHello from Scotland! I was going to write some deep and meaningful message about the geopolitical and meteorological heat death we're facing, but let's keep it light. Just do it in the butt guys. It feels real good.
Darren Sunart
2025-03-06 16:08:36 +0000 UTCoh maybe i misread the prompt. uhh my dads kind of an asshole. put the bottle down. also where are you
Jesse Holland
2025-03-06 15:47:45 +0000 UTCall i really have to say is - and i can only say this as a cis(?? who knows.) white gay man (?? who knows.) - is that my feelings are hurt lol. nothing i can say will change what people do or think of us. i can give so many logical arguments as to why the people in charge are wrong, but it wont matter. they'll think what they want. and do what they want. my words mean nothing to them. i just wish i could communicate how hurtful it is. how sincerely, genuinely, as a true human with true emotions, painful it is. it just hurts.
Jesse Holland
2025-03-06 15:46:15 +0000 UTC
