๐ง How Many of you watch/talk about porn with your partner?
Added 2025-02-15 20:19:32 +0000 UTCHi friendssss!
I am currently writing a script about how watching and talking about PORN in your couple can actually be really healthy for your relationship. And of course, I am curious to know YOUR thoughts, (as always !) on the matter!
Thank you and have a wonderful weekend!!
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Youre very welcome. I'm glad it was helpful. I was hesitant at first to contribute but I'm glad I did. I left out the stuff that she did to me that was so damaging to me because I don't know how to put it into context but I'm working on it. Great question tho, thanks Alison.
Duane Yoest
2025-03-22 08:21:58 +0000 UTCDuane! I'm reading this comment as I'm cooling off by the pool because I just played a sweaty ass tennis match with Gab. And I couldn't wait to respond to you and say thank you for sharing that! It's SO refreshing to get your/men's input on this subject matter. Because it helps break the stigma that exists between men and porn being harmful to them and the relationship. It sounds like you really wanted to use it as a tool to enhance your relationship in a very respectful matter. Unfortunately it didn't workout for you. I feel sorry for your ex because to be honest, it's not her fault. I have compassion for her, because as I mentioned in my YT video, we have been taught that it's bad. And especially for woman, that's it's abuse and means your partner doesn't love you etc. Abd sadly a lot of people don't know any better. I love your last line saying that's it's the person watching that makes it harmful or helpful. Thanks for this!
Alexandra Imperiale
2025-03-22 08:09:11 +0000 UTCI really don't know if my contribution to the survey will help because I left her 2 months ago and moved to Florida but it's a great question so here goes. I like the spicy fantasy aspect that porn offers and if I brought an idea I got from a video to her asking her thoughts she would only focus on negativity and try to demoralize me for watching porn for ideas for us. Arguing that I was watching constant porn behind her back. I'm trying to paint the events involving porn that I went thru with her best I can because to this day, now single, I'm unable to make sense of why she tried to shame me and twist my intentions. Her and I have watched videos together in the past but it seemed as if I can only do things that she wants, that includes jerking off etc. basically as if overnight she started trying to control me with rules on what Im allowed to do concerning porn, and everything related. Catch was, she was exempt from same rules! So I've given a general description of my porn experience with her without all the bazaar events. I got so confused and started to believe her abusive tactics to think I have a problem I consulted a therapist and was reassured my thoughts and fantasy questions were completely healthy and normal. Today I look at the positives that porn brings to relationships and knowing what I know talking with a therapist, I would never try to cast any negativity with porn onto anyone because it's very healthy and normal to watch. That's not to say there isn't ways porn is can be harmful to relationships, but I honestly believe it's individuals that make it harmful or helpful.
Duane Yoest
2025-03-22 07:59:37 +0000 UTC
