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Brat Emergency Hotline
Inspired by TODDLER FEELINGS HELPLINE by SARA GIVEN
Hello. You’ve reached the Brat Emergency Helpline. Please Choose from the following options:
* If you unpacked all the jute and hung it in the tallest tree in the garden, please hide for at least 48 hours.
* If you forgot to pack cupcakes into a good hiding place be...
2024-02-03 04:46:17 +0000 UTC View PostDomly Dom Feelings Helpline
Variation of Toddler Feelings Helpline
Hello, you have reached the Domly Dom Feelings Helpline. Please choose from the following options:
- If your sub went to “clean the flogger” for a minute but returned e... 2024-02-03 04:36:58 +0000 UTC View Post
So You Want an Editor For Your First Book...
A reader recently asked me to recommend an editor for a NaNoWriMo book. I receive a lot of requests like that, and I only had to try to fulfil their requests once. The editors I know will not take on a project like that, but before we get into that, let’s look at what a developmental edit actually is. Line editing is like being a human version...
2024-01-27 05:06:09 +0000 UTC View Post
Rape recovery is not a direction you need to go in. It's a country you need to explore blindfolded, guided by the voice of someone who knows the land.
Back when I was young and struggling with rape-related PTSD, people used to throw $1 advice at me all day and once more for dessert: “Stop thinking about your rape. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Trauma begets trauma. PTSD is a sign that you're obsessing about this assault. Try dance classes. Try homeopathy. Try hypnosis. Here. Have a hug, a...
2024-01-26 04:18:55 +0000 UTC View Post
Not All Rapists Know They're Rapists (Obvious trigger warning is obvious)
“We’re not all trying to be creepy.” - A reader
When you see the aftermath of a lion kill, something in the ether isn’t quite right. You see the blood on the grass and gore in the dirt, but the moment feels as serene as any other. Putting necessity and Mother Nature’s inherent violence aside, lions don’t feel ...
2024-01-26 03:59:13 +0000 UTC View Post
He's Just Our Cute Neighbourhood Rapist
My uncle lives in a reserve called Marloth Park, where there are giraffes under your washing line and monkeys on your roof. Herbivores are welcome, but dangerous carnivores are moved to the Kruger Park lest they murder the residents.
Some years back, a crocodile found its way into a Marloth dam. The locals named him Charlie and collectivel...
2024-01-25 03:23:36 +0000 UTC View Post
It takes a lot to make me resent the sight of a penis, but your cock shot avatar is a lot.
If I had the time, I would happily make a religion out of penises. I love them hard. I love them soft. I love them cut. I love them even more *un*cut. I have opinions about upward curves and philosophies about lack of curves. Mostly, I just want to put all of them in my mouth. If I was sluttier, I would set up a glory hole right outside my front...
2024-01-23 04:35:55 +0000 UTC View PostFetlife Etiquette for Noobs
- It’s impolite to insert yourself into strangers’ sexual experiences without permission, so keep your imaginary hands and first-person pronouns out of your picture comments. “That’s gorgeous” is A-okay. “I want to put my [redacted] in your [redacted]” is not okay. “Good photograph” is A-okay. “Good girl” is not okay. I... 2024-01-23 04:29:00 +0000 UTC View Post
Explicit Photo Clickathons Are a Boundary Issue
I just had a fun conversation with a man we’ll call Steve. He didn’t kick up any dust. He was a perfectly likable guy, so naturally I clicked into his profile to find out where this cute li’l stranger had come from. All I saw there was me. Me in his activity feed. Me as his sole follow, and me in his reading material. That was more “me...
2024-01-22 16:02:42 +0000 UTC View Post
Important Scientific Announcement on Brat Training
I just watched Canine Intervention and learned that dogs are more trainable when they have a dopamine hit. As a totally real, not-even-a-little-bit-fake scientist, I’m deeply committed to spreading scientific knowledge throughout the world. Science has determined, through my TV viewing, that providing treats enhances brat training. Spoiling br...
2024-01-21 04:41:08 +0000 UTC View PostMy Draw to Rape Play is Sexual (Trigger warning)
Some rape survivors have a masochistic draw to rape play. They want the pain.
I don't.
Some rape survivors use it to release tears that have refused to fall.
I’ve done all the crying my rape required of me already.
I love CNC, but not for the trauma. I'm just willi...
2024-01-19 04:36:04 +0000 UTC View PostLetters to People Who Write
Every now and then, people send me their writing for feedback. Today's request came from a new writer who's hoping to perfect the ancient art of smut. I hate smut beyond all reason, but I can fake it. I really can pretend I respect the genre. Just watch.
Dear Smut Writer
As you suspected, your piece is all descript...
2024-01-18 14:20:03 +0000 UTC View PostWhy I Need Vanilla Sex
I like vanilla sex. You heard it here first. Just don’t tell all the Super Masochists lest they hang me in the village square. In Vanilla Land, you spice up your sex life with a pair of furry handcuffs, but for me, vanilla sex is a perfectly legitimate seasoning. Sadomasochism compels me, but sometimes, I want gentleness.
I also need a r...
2024-01-18 05:50:00 +0000 UTC View PostNo More Tighty Whities, Please
I’ve spent more hours shopping for bras than I have in nightclubs. The first stop of every early relationship is Woolworths, but I’ve only dated two men who really understood the power of well-selected underwear. Tighty whities are not my idea of well-selected underwear. Have you never seen a Calvin Klein men’s underwear ad? Straight girls...
2024-01-18 05:45:02 +0000 UTC View PostThings I Learned About Abuse From an Online Gaming Company
In late 2021, an online casino company called Playtika bought a successful design game named Redecor. The new business didn’t care much about its players. It cared about profits, so it immediately began adapting the game to trigger maximum addiction and maximum buys. It captured my curiosity, so I’ve watched it closely ever since. I’ve not...
2024-01-18 05:37:41 +0000 UTC View PostReasons Lee Holloway is Better Than That 50 Shades Girl
- Lee came to the words, “Just one scoop of creamed potatoes, one slice of butter, and four peas.” That should honestly be enough to settle it, so I don’t know why you’re sitting there waiting for more.
- Lee let her boyfriend put a saddle on her back and a carrot in her mouth because she thought it was glorious. That 50 Shade... 2024-01-17 09:42:16 +0000 UTC View Post
Poetry Unbidden
This is a gorgeous poem by Nick Vittum--one of the best I've ever read about writing. (Posted with permission.)
I used to think the most romantic possible
was to sit up through the dead of night
a typewriter pounding
drink and ashtray at the side.
I didn't smoke and I
hardly drank. I'd never
make a novelist at ...
So You Think White Cis Men Don't Have Privilege Because You Suffer, Too...
South Africa experiences two hours of blackouts on most days, but when our power crisis becomes catastrophic, you can push that up to 14 hours a day. We call this loadshedding. If you’ve never been through it, you probably think of it as candles-and-Scrabble time. You’ve experienced power outages, so you know everything there is to know abou...
2024-01-15 08:53:57 +0000 UTC View PostEconomy
Writing economy is an important discipline for any writer. It means choosing your words as carefully as you might take products off the shelf during a broke month. When you're shopping with a few bucks in your pocket, you're thinking about how far each product can go and whether it's really necessary. You should be just as broke...
2024-01-14 05:48:50 +0000 UTC View PostTypes of Predatory People in the Kink Scene
Consent activist who knows 67 strategies for violating consent without getting accused of anything.
Thinks that failing to communicate her STI status before unprotected sex doesn’t make her a consent violator.
Kinky but doesn’t do any of that event crap. Wants to choke you any way he likes cuz talking about safety is drama.
Step-by-Step Guide to Online Dating
Post a photograph of your mouth with something artsy like a paintbrush between your teeth.
Decide that’s not ambitious enough and replace the paintbrush with a Coke Can.
Maybe crushing the can will make it fit.
Maybe you should just use Photoshop.
Reply to all 623 messages you get telling them to stop calling your lips ...
2024-01-12 06:32:36 +0000 UTC View Post